Thought I was the only one with this problem. But now I have a name to the guilt I feel every time I even THINK about leaving the house to do something that I want to do that doesn’t involve getting groceries or errands. Not that I don’t enjoy getting anything my family requires when they want it but it’s so overbearing that I feel like the scummiest person on Earth when I want to shoot my rifle or ride my motorcycle and I hate it.
Go to Lowe’s, help my parents with stuff, feed the kids, go to the park, go to the library. I can’t wait until they are around the same age to play together and I can get some kind of break.
Build forts, go to the zoo and local museums, build things, paint things, break things… we love taking things apart after the stop working. Sometimes they start working again, other times we learn what was inside and move on.
My daughter, nearly 5 months old, refuses to allow me to sit down while holding her. Angles can be the same and she will immediately start screaming. Wife can do whatever and she won't care, but God fucking forbid I decide to sit. And she's going through that regression for the entrie month so fuck sleep. Everyone keeps saying it'll get better, I'm sure it will, but fuck I am frustrated and tired and my wife is the same and now all we do is fight. I don't care if I'm alone or not. Fucking at the end of the rope.
Hang in there. This is where our 'Dad strength' comes in...define it however you want but I think as Dads we deal with A LOT and SOMEHOW keep going. When, if kids weren't involved, we would just wouldn't deal because I think we truly don't like drama. I've been there, feel free to Dm anytime if you need chat. You're doing a great job, try not to let anyone convince you otherwise
Thought I was the only one with this problem. But now I have a name to the guilt I feel every time I even THINK about leaving the house to do something that I want to do that doesn’t involve getting groceries or errands. Not that I don’t enjoy getting anything my family requires when they want it but it’s so overbearing that I feel like the scummiest person on Earth when I want to shoot my rifle or ride my motorcycle and I hate it.
Ya, if at all possible, we dads have to try to carve out time for ourselves or we can burnout fast
There is a light at the end of the tunnel, hang in there
Go to Lowe’s, help my parents with stuff, feed the kids, go to the park, go to the library. I can’t wait until they are around the same age to play together and I can get some kind of break.
Soon enough
Build forts, go to the zoo and local museums, build things, paint things, break things… we love taking things apart after the stop working. Sometimes they start working again, other times we learn what was inside and move on.
Great age gap between kids too
My daughter, nearly 5 months old, refuses to allow me to sit down while holding her. Angles can be the same and she will immediately start screaming. Wife can do whatever and she won't care, but God fucking forbid I decide to sit. And she's going through that regression for the entrie month so fuck sleep. Everyone keeps saying it'll get better, I'm sure it will, but fuck I am frustrated and tired and my wife is the same and now all we do is fight. I don't care if I'm alone or not. Fucking at the end of the rope.
Hang in there. This is where our 'Dad strength' comes in...define it however you want but I think as Dads we deal with A LOT and SOMEHOW keep going. When, if kids weren't involved, we would just wouldn't deal because I think we truly don't like drama. I've been there, feel free to Dm anytime if you need chat. You're doing a great job, try not to let anyone convince you otherwise
So tired….
same here...
Yup, I've gone through it. It can feel like you don't exist even though you are working so hard for them.