I would never say my I do things due to bpd. I make my choices. Bpd is sometimes a contributing factor. That being said one time my ex told me to stop contacting him, and blocked me on everything. So I emailed him until he called and said he’d have to get police involved if I didn’t stop.
We probably could also all do a better job of posting more positive stuff. I think a lot of us come here when things are bad, but not when things are good. So it’s really heavy to come on here and interact with the posts.
I think it’s also that most post contain something abusive the OP had done. You don’t want to condone that, but also don’t want to give them hardcore criticism when they ask for support. It’s tricky.
I think we do a decent job of calling each other out on that tho. Like idk that anyone is really harsh about it, but we do try to point out each others bs
Well see, Robyn was forced to give her purity to an evil evil evil man who impregnated her out of wedlock giving her no choice to turn her back on her future love. The only joy she found in her Montana prison was giving birth to kody Browns future children, buying long-legged jeans on credit from Victoria Secret, and break dancing.
My FP broke up with me over this. We worked it out. It was incredibly damaging to our relationship that he could not tell me things. I put immense effort into making sure FP never feels that again.
It’s also good to have a plan in place for when you do run into something like this again. You have to find a path forward when your brain wants to split. Even if that means saying “hey I need a second.” And then try to get where you need to go. And explain hey I had this reaction out of jealousy for your relationship with your parents, and it was making me split, so I wanted to calm down a little.
I have the nba app and it was like can’t stream it’s with a local channel. And then when I went onto my regular cable it said you need the nba pass l, and I do it’s just not connected to my membership. This is why I always try to get the game on half an hour before 😂
I’ve learned that you would be much happier when you realize most people are never going to do what you would do for them. It’s not saying they are mean or they don’t like you but you know your brain is wired different then most people. So if you don’t have the normal brain you won’t have the normal thoughts or actions. So you can’t expect people to behave like you. Once I learned that it saved me a lot of hurt feelings cause I was hurting my own feelings. And we know with a lot of things enough is never enough it doesn’t matter what they do. Accept people for who they are just like you wanna be accepted. Learn the difference between someonewho’s not prioritizing you and someone who’s not prioritizing your bpd.
I’m with you. I have cut off just about everyone I knew. I used to be “popular,” oddly. Now, I can’t stand people who can’t stand me. I’m a lot. I get it. But when I’ve always put your needs before my own, and you don’t show me the same respect in my times of need? You are dead to me. If I have upset you and you don’t/won’t tell me what it is you’re mad about, I’m done. I will not reach out again. This is especially true if I apologize for my adhd/bipolar/BPD impulsive behavior and it’s still an issue, you are excommunicated. Thanks to adhd, it’s quite easy for me to “forget” people. How could I not love my life?
Just wanted to reply to your post even though I’ve not got anything valuable to say I’m afraid. Didn’t want you to think it was going unread. Good luck though- knowledge is power I suppose!
If he's already mentioned he wants to get over it I think you should tell him. Sit him down calmly and discuss. Be sure to say you know BPD is not an excuse to be abusive and that his ex was abusive and manipulative. Say you are trying to control your BPD and be a good girlfriend despite it and hope to change his view on the disorder.
This! Bpd is not an excuse. It’s apart of us and we are strong people who have the ability to make our own choices. It’s always there, but if we use it as an excuse in our relationships we will end up just hurting them and ourselves. If you don’t use it as an , which it sounds like you know not do already, this will completely change his perspective on bpd
That is so rough. You have to tell him tho. It’s going to be way worse the longer you wait, because if it is something he can’t get over it’s good to know now. It sounds like you aren’t in the same place as his ex was, so maybe this will help him change perspective. Also, and I always say this to bpd people in couples, get a couples therapist. Even if it’s not bad where you’re at, it’s always good to have one on the back burner you already know. If you go when things are good, the therapist can spend time getting to know you both, and you will be able to come into the space positively. If you wait until it’s bad you’re going to be in triage mode and the therapy will be more difficult.
Oh my god thank you for this comment. As a newly diagnosed this is so helpful
Aww glad it helped
I found them distracting while trying to follow the ball. I figured it was just because I’m old.
I am not old and I hate it
Yes. I think when I do it it’s like a form of splitting. Like I don’t like that they’re not there when I think of them so they must not love me
We believe in you! You know what you need to do. You have the strength to do it.
I would never say my I do things due to bpd. I make my choices. Bpd is sometimes a contributing factor. That being said one time my ex told me to stop contacting him, and blocked me on everything. So I emailed him until he called and said he’d have to get police involved if I didn’t stop.
I would read it. I’m a musician and write songs about bpd a lot, so I always like hearing other bpd people do similar stuff because it inspires me.
We probably could also all do a better job of posting more positive stuff. I think a lot of us come here when things are bad, but not when things are good. So it’s really heavy to come on here and interact with the posts.
I think it’s also that most post contain something abusive the OP had done. You don’t want to condone that, but also don’t want to give them hardcore criticism when they ask for support. It’s tricky.
I think we do a decent job of calling each other out on that tho. Like idk that anyone is really harsh about it, but we do try to point out each others bs
Well see, Robyn was forced to give her purity to an evil evil evil man who impregnated her out of wedlock giving her no choice to turn her back on her future love. The only joy she found in her Montana prison was giving birth to kody Browns future children, buying long-legged jeans on credit from Victoria Secret, and break dancing.
You are fucking hilarious
My FP broke up with me over this. We worked it out. It was incredibly damaging to our relationship that he could not tell me things. I put immense effort into making sure FP never feels that again.
i plan to do the same
It’s also good to have a plan in place for when you do run into something like this again. You have to find a path forward when your brain wants to split. Even if that means saying “hey I need a second.” And then try to get where you need to go. And explain hey I had this reaction out of jealousy for your relationship with your parents, and it was making me split, so I wanted to calm down a little.
❤️
I HAVE HAS THIS SAME IDEA YES!
WHEN I TELL YOU I just spend thirty minutes crying feeling this exact god damn way.
NO WAY
Yes way lol
Hardy and Luka, two 🐐
Even though we lost today I’m honestly so excited. I feel so good about this season.
Im so happy to be watching NBA ball again. I think this team is underrated and Luka's gonna be MVP
I feel that way always
NBA TV
I have the nba app and it was like can’t stream it’s with a local channel. And then when I went onto my regular cable it said you need the nba pass l, and I do it’s just not connected to my membership. This is why I always try to get the game on half an hour before 😂
I genuinely love that man. He is the same age as me and yet he is my son.
Every single fucking day
I’ve learned that you would be much happier when you realize most people are never going to do what you would do for them. It’s not saying they are mean or they don’t like you but you know your brain is wired different then most people. So if you don’t have the normal brain you won’t have the normal thoughts or actions. So you can’t expect people to behave like you. Once I learned that it saved me a lot of hurt feelings cause I was hurting my own feelings. And we know with a lot of things enough is never enough it doesn’t matter what they do. Accept people for who they are just like you wanna be accepted. Learn the difference between someonewho’s not prioritizing you and someone who’s not prioritizing your bpd.
This is a hard learned but valuable BPD lesson. They just can’t love us like we love them.
I’m with you. I have cut off just about everyone I knew. I used to be “popular,” oddly. Now, I can’t stand people who can’t stand me. I’m a lot. I get it. But when I’ve always put your needs before my own, and you don’t show me the same respect in my times of need? You are dead to me. If I have upset you and you don’t/won’t tell me what it is you’re mad about, I’m done. I will not reach out again. This is especially true if I apologize for my adhd/bipolar/BPD impulsive behavior and it’s still an issue, you are excommunicated. Thanks to adhd, it’s quite easy for me to “forget” people. How could I not love my life?
She sounds fucking exhausting
This may be an annoying question, but have you thought about rebalancing and changing your meds?
I think it is my meds. I made it 5 years clean before all this started
What do you mean by all this? Like starting meds?
Boat scene, Noel’s lake party, they get on a boat and Hannah has to defend herself by hitting him and pushing him into the water.
Christ this shows plot is so wild 😂. We don’t even remember all of it and then when it’s brought up like 🤣
They did in the books and it was cute
Just wanted to reply to your post even though I’ve not got anything valuable to say I’m afraid. Didn’t want you to think it was going unread. Good luck though- knowledge is power I suppose!
Thanks!
If he's already mentioned he wants to get over it I think you should tell him. Sit him down calmly and discuss. Be sure to say you know BPD is not an excuse to be abusive and that his ex was abusive and manipulative. Say you are trying to control your BPD and be a good girlfriend despite it and hope to change his view on the disorder.
This! Bpd is not an excuse. It’s apart of us and we are strong people who have the ability to make our own choices. It’s always there, but if we use it as an excuse in our relationships we will end up just hurting them and ourselves. If you don’t use it as an , which it sounds like you know not do already, this will completely change his perspective on bpd
That is so rough. You have to tell him tho. It’s going to be way worse the longer you wait, because if it is something he can’t get over it’s good to know now. It sounds like you aren’t in the same place as his ex was, so maybe this will help him change perspective. Also, and I always say this to bpd people in couples, get a couples therapist. Even if it’s not bad where you’re at, it’s always good to have one on the back burner you already know. If you go when things are good, the therapist can spend time getting to know you both, and you will be able to come into the space positively. If you wait until it’s bad you’re going to be in triage mode and the therapy will be more difficult.
Throw myself into a new series
Ya thats not a bad idea, i guess theres just not many series that interest me, it seems like ive watched all the good ones.
Try reading. Takes longer,