Idk scindapsus is one of the easy plants for me like a pothos. One of those things you don’t have to give any attention to. I got one a couple years ago only repotted it once. I would just not think too much into it and ignore it 95% of the time. They don’t need much water they have thick leaves and stems and roots. I hate to say it but medium high light. They’ll grow in low light but the leaves will be real far apart or small.
SAHM and we have a joint account. I have full access to the account. It is our money. We discuss large purchases, but that's it. I don't ask him for permission. Money is tight here too. We are both aware of what bills need to be paid, and neither of us will spend extra money if we don't have it that week.
This. We set a spending limit we don't have to discuss. So basically like food, baby essentials, things I want or need, things he wants to needs. Then beyond that (which is a reasonable amount) we discuss it. Say he wants idk 250 bucks of something or to fix up his computer, ect qe discuss the budget. But if I want new shoes under a particular amount I don't have to ask. If the kids need diapers i don't ask.
Right, if it was stuff like diapers or stuff we needed I wouldn’t have to “ask” like that either. I just don’t have a card to his account so I have to “ask” him to send it to me. The only things I feel like I truly have to ask for is stuff for me personally that I just want. He would never say no to stuff we need and hardly says no to stuff I want but either way I can’t just go do it because at this point we still have separate accounts and mine isn’t refilling anymore lol.
And that’s a reality, but you both should be having a discussion about how that extra money is being spent. Is it only going to your husband to do the things that he wants to do? Do you get some say if there’s something that you want or need?whether you have a little or a lot, it needs to be a joint decision. Some partners withhold that from their spouse because they’re the one earning the money and that’s not right.
Thanks for your feedback! Well, he gets to do what he wants to do without asking because it’s already in his bank account and the card is in his pocket. I get some say if there’s something I want or need because I express the want or need and then 9 times out of 10 he obliges. If it’s a large financial decision we have a conversation about whether we both think it’s a good idea, but at the end of the day he could go on to make it without me I suppose tho he seems to value my opinion thus far.
This is exactly what I’m talking about. You should be receiving an amount of money for you to spend however you want. He should not have a say in whether or not you get to have your hair done before your baby is born or if you get to go out for a night with your girlfriend when he gets to go out with the guys.
Yea I think that sounds fair and reasonable. I don’t have to beg but no need to nitpick over one word. The point is taken all the same. I do have multiple credit cards that I took out when I was working (and before I should have) because I wasn’t making a lot of money and in turn wasn’t very responsible with them but I always make the payments on time and have figured out how to continue to do it for the last two months I’ve been staying home. I do also have a bank account checking and savings in my own name which my checks always got deposited into when I worked but now it’s basically used just for my debt to come out of and for him to Zelle me anything that he gives me. I have to figure out what to do about these cards I’m hoping to take a small loan and pay them off so that it’s one easy payment a month. But this is a little irrelevant to our convo so I’ll spare you lol.
Your mileage varies, I guess. We have a 6 year old and she seems to have pretty much fallen off a cliff. Still healthy (enough) but she has arthritis in her front elbows. It's painful for her. She might need surgery if we can afford it. But it has taken some game out of her for sure. She used to be able to fly up into the back of the car, now she is not so sure and has to gauge herself. (But she gets upset if I pick her up.) Love her to death and she is a rescue which means that the age we were given may not have been correct. But I am a little sad for her. Love `em while you have `em. She has definitely begun middle age...
My post is quite old, but no she is not overweight at all. Her issues continue to deteriorate but I really do think it depends on the dog. This dog has always seemed to have some fragility in her legs. Not sure why. In all honesty, it's probably a good thing she ended up w/ us. If she had been asked to chase around cattle/livestock, I don't think she would have fared very well. We had to cut back on her hikes with us and this makes us all very sad, but she can now only handle a few hundred yards before she is struggling. We are buying a stroller for her soon.
I did notice it was like 4 years ago lol. Was still curious! Thanks for responding. I’m sorry to hear it’s progressed so much. Must have just been genetic.
I think it has something to do with watering. Inconsistent watering maybe. Could also be too close to the light. Your alocasia is showing the same signs.
Literally nobody ever said keep it a secret from her and report it. OF COURSE he would have to tell his wife, SHE is the only person who CAN PRESS CHARGES. Him filing a police report wouldn’t even be possible without her. He isn’t in the porn.
Even if you want to say the state would pick up the charges, it doesn’t matter. Even the state would not press charges without the wife’s participation. There is no way to start the process without her knowing. They need her to be on board to say that is her in the video, that he did not have consent to share it, and potentially testify. However it usually doesn’t get that far as testifying because he would take a plea. But nobody just sends the video to the police. They have to go in and say he’s done this, together, and they want to file a complaint/report.
Well it depends on the semester, how much the classes are, if they’re online or in person. I’m only half time so they don’t give me all of it. They only give you what you need based on what the school says you need which is like tuition plus books n maybe something else. But generally I have a few hundred dollars left. Maybe 500. I also apply for any scholarships I can get which would be on top of your refund.
It’s not gonna work. I will never put a man over my daughter. Even if I am carrying his child. If I knew he felt this way, I would have never stayed with him.
I just can’t believe he would think the first time he should bring this up is in front of a group of people. Was he drunk? I am so sorry you had to go through that. My 9 year old sister who came to live with us (my fiancé our toddler and myself) a year ago has heard a couple comments from my fiancé that were rude in regard to her not being our child. It fucking sent me over the edge and she’s only lived with me/us a year. No child should ever be made to feel less than, adoption or not. I can’t imagine how bad that hurt after 8 years together.
Ew. Find a new husband. My husband is tight about money (that’s a good thing, I’m not), I won’t pretend he hasn’t made me feel bad about money when he’s stressed. But in general he would give everything he has if we need it and I’ve never had to go without. If I ever ask for anything he’s helped me. And while the price might be listening to him bitch once in awhile when it’s weighing on him, I know he breaks his back for us everyday. Not to mention he took care of me when I wasn’t working, and basically still when I was for peanuts, and expects nothing back but my half of the contribution when I’m done with school.
I just want to say your strength to stand up for yourself and your heart and leave is so admirable. It takes so much courage to do what you’re doing and I commend you. You’re going to find amazing peace in your independence, hang in there friend.
NTA but I think you’re taking out your anger for your father and his new wife and letting it boil over toward your baby half sibling. It may only be hurting you in the long run. You could have an awesome relationship with them despite their mom or y’all dad. And while there is obviously a large age gap I’ll tell you right now my parents had children once I was an adult with their new partners and those kids are more like my own kids rather than my sisters. Not in the sense I had to raise them but in the spot they have in my heart.
Yea you can totally do that. A lot of people just wrap moss around the base of the plant but a moss pole will work for sure. I’ve mostly seen it encouraged with Queens but there’s no reason you couldn’t with crystal. Never done it personally tho but totally see why you would want to.
Because they soak up a shit load of water and don’t join the one leaf club when they’re in it.
Idk scindapsus is one of the easy plants for me like a pothos. One of those things you don’t have to give any attention to. I got one a couple years ago only repotted it once. I would just not think too much into it and ignore it 95% of the time. They don’t need much water they have thick leaves and stems and roots. I hate to say it but medium high light. They’ll grow in low light but the leaves will be real far apart or small.
SAHM and we have a joint account. I have full access to the account. It is our money. We discuss large purchases, but that's it. I don't ask him for permission. Money is tight here too. We are both aware of what bills need to be paid, and neither of us will spend extra money if we don't have it that week.
Did you have a joint account before marriage and was this all set up before you quit working or had kiddos?
This. We set a spending limit we don't have to discuss. So basically like food, baby essentials, things I want or need, things he wants to needs. Then beyond that (which is a reasonable amount) we discuss it. Say he wants idk 250 bucks of something or to fix up his computer, ect qe discuss the budget. But if I want new shoes under a particular amount I don't have to ask. If the kids need diapers i don't ask.
Right, if it was stuff like diapers or stuff we needed I wouldn’t have to “ask” like that either. I just don’t have a card to his account so I have to “ask” him to send it to me. The only things I feel like I truly have to ask for is stuff for me personally that I just want. He would never say no to stuff we need and hardly says no to stuff I want but either way I can’t just go do it because at this point we still have separate accounts and mine isn’t refilling anymore lol.
I just wanted to say the whole sentiment here really warmed my heart. ♥️ so happy for you all!
I would call your local women’s shelter and ask them what to do. They have the answers for sure.
Data annotation is a great resource! I also work telus and it’s another solid option
Can you tell me more about telus? I just signed up for dataannoatation.
And that’s a reality, but you both should be having a discussion about how that extra money is being spent. Is it only going to your husband to do the things that he wants to do? Do you get some say if there’s something that you want or need?whether you have a little or a lot, it needs to be a joint decision. Some partners withhold that from their spouse because they’re the one earning the money and that’s not right.
Thanks for your feedback! Well, he gets to do what he wants to do without asking because it’s already in his bank account and the card is in his pocket. I get some say if there’s something I want or need because I express the want or need and then 9 times out of 10 he obliges. If it’s a large financial decision we have a conversation about whether we both think it’s a good idea, but at the end of the day he could go on to make it without me I suppose tho he seems to value my opinion thus far.
This is exactly what I’m talking about. You should be receiving an amount of money for you to spend however you want. He should not have a say in whether or not you get to have your hair done before your baby is born or if you get to go out for a night with your girlfriend when he gets to go out with the guys.
Yea I think that sounds fair and reasonable. I don’t have to beg but no need to nitpick over one word. The point is taken all the same. I do have multiple credit cards that I took out when I was working (and before I should have) because I wasn’t making a lot of money and in turn wasn’t very responsible with them but I always make the payments on time and have figured out how to continue to do it for the last two months I’ve been staying home. I do also have a bank account checking and savings in my own name which my checks always got deposited into when I worked but now it’s basically used just for my debt to come out of and for him to Zelle me anything that he gives me. I have to figure out what to do about these cards I’m hoping to take a small loan and pay them off so that it’s one easy payment a month. But this is a little irrelevant to our convo so I’ll spare you lol.
Your mileage varies, I guess. We have a 6 year old and she seems to have pretty much fallen off a cliff. Still healthy (enough) but she has arthritis in her front elbows. It's painful for her. She might need surgery if we can afford it. But it has taken some game out of her for sure. She used to be able to fly up into the back of the car, now she is not so sure and has to gauge herself. (But she gets upset if I pick her up.) Love her to death and she is a rescue which means that the age we were given may not have been correct. But I am a little sad for her. Love `em while you have `em. She has definitely begun middle age...
Does she happen to be overweight at all? Or physically fit and just bad elbows?
My post is quite old, but no she is not overweight at all. Her issues continue to deteriorate but I really do think it depends on the dog. This dog has always seemed to have some fragility in her legs. Not sure why. In all honesty, it's probably a good thing she ended up w/ us. If she had been asked to chase around cattle/livestock, I don't think she would have fared very well. We had to cut back on her hikes with us and this makes us all very sad, but she can now only handle a few hundred yards before she is struggling. We are buying a stroller for her soon.
I did notice it was like 4 years ago lol. Was still curious! Thanks for responding. I’m sorry to hear it’s progressed so much. Must have just been genetic.
I think it has something to do with watering. Inconsistent watering maybe. Could also be too close to the light. Your alocasia is showing the same signs.
Yes. It looks done to me. It should be firm and white in the middle and juicy.
This is the law in Michigan where I am: Rape
Any Jose has the potential to look like this they just need a lot of light.
If it’s root bound then it’s not getting as much water as it used to. It’s drying out too fast. So the bottom of the leaf is gonna start crisping up.
THIS IS NOT HIS DECISION. HE IS NOT THE VICTIM.
Literally nobody ever said keep it a secret from her and report it. OF COURSE he would have to tell his wife, SHE is the only person who CAN PRESS CHARGES. Him filing a police report wouldn’t even be possible without her. He isn’t in the porn.
At least in the US, people don’t “press charges.” The government does.
Even if you want to say the state would pick up the charges, it doesn’t matter. Even the state would not press charges without the wife’s participation. There is no way to start the process without her knowing. They need her to be on board to say that is her in the video, that he did not have consent to share it, and potentially testify. However it usually doesn’t get that far as testifying because he would take a plea. But nobody just sends the video to the police. They have to go in and say he’s done this, together, and they want to file a complaint/report.
Literally here for the SAME reason. Located in Lower Michigan.
lol I didn’t even have to read the paragraphs to know you’re NTA.
what did u have left over
Well it depends on the semester, how much the classes are, if they’re online or in person. I’m only half time so they don’t give me all of it. They only give you what you need based on what the school says you need which is like tuition plus books n maybe something else. But generally I have a few hundred dollars left. Maybe 500. I also apply for any scholarships I can get which would be on top of your refund.
Gorgeous. Where did u find. Pls. I've not seen any strawberry shake with those darker colors..
It really just has to do with the lighting they’re in. The higher the light the darker pink it will be.
Yea they’re just spring tails. I have a post just like this lol.
It’s not gonna work. I will never put a man over my daughter. Even if I am carrying his child. If I knew he felt this way, I would have never stayed with him.
I just can’t believe he would think the first time he should bring this up is in front of a group of people. Was he drunk? I am so sorry you had to go through that. My 9 year old sister who came to live with us (my fiancé our toddler and myself) a year ago has heard a couple comments from my fiancé that were rude in regard to her not being our child. It fucking sent me over the edge and she’s only lived with me/us a year. No child should ever be made to feel less than, adoption or not. I can’t imagine how bad that hurt after 8 years together.
Root rot. And transplant shock. I would leave it and watch for new root growth. The leca roots need to die and new roots have to grow.
Ew. Find a new husband. My husband is tight about money (that’s a good thing, I’m not), I won’t pretend he hasn’t made me feel bad about money when he’s stressed. But in general he would give everything he has if we need it and I’ve never had to go without. If I ever ask for anything he’s helped me. And while the price might be listening to him bitch once in awhile when it’s weighing on him, I know he breaks his back for us everyday. Not to mention he took care of me when I wasn’t working, and basically still when I was for peanuts, and expects nothing back but my half of the contribution when I’m done with school.
I just want to say your strength to stand up for yourself and your heart and leave is so admirable. It takes so much courage to do what you’re doing and I commend you. You’re going to find amazing peace in your independence, hang in there friend.
NTA but I think you’re taking out your anger for your father and his new wife and letting it boil over toward your baby half sibling. It may only be hurting you in the long run. You could have an awesome relationship with them despite their mom or y’all dad. And while there is obviously a large age gap I’ll tell you right now my parents had children once I was an adult with their new partners and those kids are more like my own kids rather than my sisters. Not in the sense I had to raise them but in the spot they have in my heart.
Yea you can totally do that. A lot of people just wrap moss around the base of the plant but a moss pole will work for sure. I’ve mostly seen it encouraged with Queens but there’s no reason you couldn’t with crystal. Never done it personally tho but totally see why you would want to.