As a student about to graduate these posts have me really concerned about entering the field... I guess they are also making me extra conscious about the need to specialize and network well?
I make around $120-$140k in private practice. This is my only paid job. I'm married, with a spouse who earns the same. We live in a VHCOL area and we still save a lot of money.
Oh sorry I was unclear, I meant to convey that the only comparable style I've been able to find is the $25 one that is obviously not real and incorrect. I see how what I wrote is ambiguous.
My ten year old asked me what that meant and I realized perhaps I’ve let her watch this show too early 🤔😵💫 as I was trying to find words she goes “oh nevermind it’s a vitamin”. Okay - yep!!!👍
I started practicum at age 32 as well and a therapist friend pointed out that it makes sense to feel more confident/natural at it than a 22-year-old fresh out of college with comparatively little adult-real-world experience might.
My past life as a project manager, sometimes more than answering a few emails, but easily very little work most days. But the next step in advancement was to get an MBA, the thought of which literally made me cry, so I sought something else.
I never became a project manager on purpose -- it was what my friends did so I followed suit. I just absolutely did not give a single shit about my job. The aspects of it that I liked were related to getting to talk to lots of different people and build those relationships. My favorite days were when I had to solve a problem and talk to like four different departments to understand their process and figure out where we went awry. My last role had a particularly stupid and asinine task that was regularly part of my scope that my job before that didn't, so there is some variance there, but the general sense of "I don't care about any of the things people care that I'm good at and none of the things I need to do to advance appeal to me" made me a miserable person. I'm much happier now that I care about what I'm doing. My friends who are still in that track are happy with their work and their identification with it, but there is a general sense of preferring to work somewhere where they can feel good about the company's mission.
I'll have to check that out. I would think as therapists we would do better. I even find myself actively resisting the urge to get defensive and justify myself online when I feel judged or misunderstood. I am not like that at all in real life. In real life I'm just like "they can think what they think about me" and not give it much more thought if its a stranger. Also strangers tend to be nice to me in real life lol so I rarely have to even worry about it.
$135k+ working 3 days a week, with at least 8 weeks off a year. In PP in a flyover state and heavily niched down. Have been fully licensed for 3+ years but went straight into PP after grad school. I outearn and outrest (arguably the more impressive feat) all the people who shit on it and told me not to.
I work with complex trauma, and honestly I kept getting mad because none of my supervisors or professors (save one) had a clue about treating trauma beyond EMDR (which was designed for negative belief systems, not the gestalt of trauma) and not a damn word about what to actually do with trauma was spoken in a grad class. So I learned, found every CEU I could and sunk $30k plus into trainings and it’s paid off wonders.
Thank you for your thorough answer! I've been thinking about my niche since I started my grad program and now that I'm about to graduate I can't wait to take all the trainings, but I'm worried about oversaturation. Do you think your being in a flyover state contributes to lack of others with your niche?
I am a student about to graduate and have been thinking a lot about how to ensure I am set up well to have a comfortable fee. Would you mind sharing what makes people find you worth $300? I can also DM if you'd prefer.
I remove posts that have been approved by another mod, but only if the post does not comply with our rules. For example, just posting an image without prompting a discussion, particularly if the post is not related to contest prep, will get removed even if it was up to that point a popular post. Rules are rules.
Rules are entirely changeable by the mods and while it may have made sense at one time, you have willfully ushered in the death of the sub with no chance for resurrections by refusing to examine what may not make sense anymore. When it was more active, preventing those kinds of posts may have made sense.
I've had newer friends or romantic interests essentially say "Don't therapize me" when I am showing I care or offering support :(. While for sure I want to be checked if they feel like I'm doing the annoying baby therapist thing, for one of them I was absolutely just showing I cared and it hurt my feelings that I'm suddenly not allowed to express sympathy otherwise I'm Working.
Yeah that's been a huge frustration to me -- I don't know why it's only City of Tustin announcing for Tustin things when it's not like Irvine isn't right across the fucking street.
I'm a CBT defender, but I don't think it's right for every client. It depends on what their goals are. CBT works really well in my experience for clients who are very practical, who want solutions focused work, or who have done a lot of introspection on their own and need support turning that into change.
This is interesting because I feel like I have tried CBT with therapists before and I have a ton of introspection, but I felt like CBT did nothing to translate that into change! It was very like "Yeah dude I already know the fact to challenge this thought with but that's not helping me."
I don't understand what their intention was but I'd say as a bi woman married to a cis het man I'm "hetero -passing." I'm open to thoughts on this but my initial instinct would be that naming that in a signature would be for my own benefit rather than the benefit of others, but I guess maybe a person in that situation might think it could make queer clients more comfortable with them?
I'm struggling with this so much with our practicum students right now. They're all very intervention-focused, to the point one of them felt they did a bad job in a session the other day because the client didn't want to be taught a new skill.
I'm a practicum student dealing with the other side of this! I feel like my school is very DO YOU HAVE A MODEL YET? BETTER BE ONE OF THE ONES WE THINK IS RIGHT and I'm like jesus christ cool now I have to effectively be dishonest on my theory of change papers for the sake of graduating and also worry about shoehorning in techniques to demonstrate adherence to a model I don't even necessarily think is correct for the client.
So is it normal for lash extensions to sometime be uncomfortable/slightly painful? I’m getting my first in august and super nervous I’ll end up in a lot of pain :/
I would say it's common but it's not correct. If you are mindful of keeping your eyes closed, you should be good (assuming you're not surprise allergic etc.). I had a lotttt of tearing up/burning during the process because I didn't know how important it was to keep your eyes fully closed.
He has an 80L tank! They don't need much, enoufh to move around freely. And it shouldn't be too tall, they're prone to falling off the ceiling of the tank because they're heavy. Mine has a 45x45x30cm terrarium
I suggest you learn machine work style permanent makeup, and not Microblading. The industry is moving away from microblading. If you learn to work with a machine, you can learn anything: powder/ombré brow, nano brow, lips, eyeliner, scar camouflage, restorative tattooing.
How would I search for someone who does this? If I'm looking at an artist's Instagram or web site what keywords do I wanna look for? I have oily skin so I'm very interested.
Did this ever resolve? My friends like YTM so I tried it and I cannot get it to fucking stop playing country. Do I just need to trust the process of thumbs-down-ing songs?
If your skin tolerates copper peptides ok then yes that's fine! But those can either induce or make you more prone to some additional irritation in combination with other actives like retinoids or exfoliants. And using exfoliating acids layered with peptides can reduce the efficacy of the peptides (which meh, I don't think I would worry about unless you are on a super tight budget since the product is cheap so some benefit is still nice).
Oh so maybe at first I could try a day with just the peptide, and if that goes okay, I could do the peptide AM and retinoid or exfoliant in PM to avoid layering irritation?
Botox is obviously the biggest one. The Inkey list eye retinol cream is a good eye safe option. An Argireline serum like The Ordinary one is a good option as an alternative to Botox. The Good Molecules Super Peptide serum is also an option with Argireline you want to include some peptides.
I tried Botox once and I've love to get back to it when my income can accommodate it! It also stop being effective after only two months so I think I'd need to try a different kind or something because whew that's so fast.
It's absolute garbage that the program coordinator isn't helping. My faculty told us in mid-January that if we hadn't already started looking for June we were late, and later I found out that a lot of sites don't start caring about applications until March so I had applied too early, essentially. At the same time, none of the sites got back to me in March -- the only two places that asked me to interview thankfully sent me offers. It is wild to me that it doesn't function more like MSW where we not only start our first year but are placed. I have no advice, only commiseration :(.
She literally said on a zoom info session "I don't have time to keep this list updated." MA'AM THAT'S YOUR JOB. HIRE A GA IF THAT'S THE CASE. I appreciate your commiseration and am happy you found a site!! Best of luck!
Omg that is literally her job what is happeninggggggg. Are there any other coordinators who aren't assigned to you that could help? Or a program director you could ~ innocently ask ~ about the list?
i haven’t used a different primer but used to have this problem ALL the time. try setting your liner and the area it transfers to with setting powder. hope it helps :3
Truly the main thing that upsets me about my chronically single status is that rent is so goddamn expensive. The scope of my life is significantly decreased by my rent being so much higher than that of cohabitating couples.
Yes. Make 6 figures in PP. Getting tired of these posts.
As a student about to graduate these posts have me really concerned about entering the field... I guess they are also making me extra conscious about the need to specialize and network well?
I make around $120-$140k in private practice. This is my only paid job. I'm married, with a spouse who earns the same. We live in a VHCOL area and we still save a lot of money.
May I ask what you specialize in?
So, I've purchased a couple of rings from baby gold and they're fine. Solid gold, not plated shit.
Oh sorry I was unclear, I meant to convey that the only comparable style I've been able to find is the $25 one that is obviously not real and incorrect. I see how what I wrote is ambiguous.
Maybe talk to a local jeweler and see if they can do it in your price range.
Thank you for your input!
My ten year old asked me what that meant and I realized perhaps I’ve let her watch this show too early 🤔😵💫 as I was trying to find words she goes “oh nevermind it’s a vitamin”. Okay - yep!!!👍
This is setting up for her to yell something about Plan B in public lolol.
I started practicum at age 32 as well and a therapist friend pointed out that it makes sense to feel more confident/natural at it than a 22-year-old fresh out of college with comparatively little adult-real-world experience might.
Genuinely curious, what kind of job makes $100K a year via answering a few emails?
My past life as a project manager, sometimes more than answering a few emails, but easily very little work most days. But the next step in advancement was to get an MBA, the thought of which literally made me cry, so I sought something else.
I'm thinking about switching from being a therapist to eventually a project manager. What made you want to switch?
I never became a project manager on purpose -- it was what my friends did so I followed suit. I just absolutely did not give a single shit about my job. The aspects of it that I liked were related to getting to talk to lots of different people and build those relationships. My favorite days were when I had to solve a problem and talk to like four different departments to understand their process and figure out where we went awry. My last role had a particularly stupid and asinine task that was regularly part of my scope that my job before that didn't, so there is some variance there, but the general sense of "I don't care about any of the things people care that I'm good at and none of the things I need to do to advance appeal to me" made me a miserable person. I'm much happier now that I care about what I'm doing. My friends who are still in that track are happy with their work and their identification with it, but there is a general sense of preferring to work somewhere where they can feel good about the company's mission.
I'll have to check that out. I would think as therapists we would do better. I even find myself actively resisting the urge to get defensive and justify myself online when I feel judged or misunderstood. I am not like that at all in real life. In real life I'm just like "they can think what they think about me" and not give it much more thought if its a stranger. Also strangers tend to be nice to me in real life lol so I rarely have to even worry about it.
$135k+ working 3 days a week, with at least 8 weeks off a year. In PP in a flyover state and heavily niched down. Have been fully licensed for 3+ years but went straight into PP after grad school. I outearn and outrest (arguably the more impressive feat) all the people who shit on it and told me not to.
Is your niche what you credit with your ability to get that earning and rest? How did you figure out your niche?
I work with complex trauma, and honestly I kept getting mad because none of my supervisors or professors (save one) had a clue about treating trauma beyond EMDR (which was designed for negative belief systems, not the gestalt of trauma) and not a damn word about what to actually do with trauma was spoken in a grad class. So I learned, found every CEU I could and sunk $30k plus into trainings and it’s paid off wonders.
Thank you for your thorough answer! I've been thinking about my niche since I started my grad program and now that I'm about to graduate I can't wait to take all the trainings, but I'm worried about oversaturation. Do you think your being in a flyover state contributes to lack of others with your niche?
Video games, Dungeons and Dragons, bodybuilding, MMA, plants, and in the last couple years I decided to learn accordion and banjo.
I charge my full fee ($300), just like any other session. Where did you get the idea that you should be doing free consults?
I am a student about to graduate and have been thinking a lot about how to ensure I am set up well to have a comfortable fee. Would you mind sharing what makes people find you worth $300? I can also DM if you'd prefer.
I remove posts that have been approved by another mod, but only if the post does not comply with our rules. For example, just posting an image without prompting a discussion, particularly if the post is not related to contest prep, will get removed even if it was up to that point a popular post. Rules are rules.
Rules are entirely changeable by the mods and while it may have made sense at one time, you have willfully ushered in the death of the sub with no chance for resurrections by refusing to examine what may not make sense anymore. When it was more active, preventing those kinds of posts may have made sense.
I've had newer friends or romantic interests essentially say "Don't therapize me" when I am showing I care or offering support :(. While for sure I want to be checked if they feel like I'm doing the annoying baby therapist thing, for one of them I was absolutely just showing I cared and it hurt my feelings that I'm suddenly not allowed to express sympathy otherwise I'm Working.
Right, but what about those of us not in Tustin? Irvine has not been helpful or communicative at all.
Yeah that's been a huge frustration to me -- I don't know why it's only City of Tustin announcing for Tustin things when it's not like Irvine isn't right across the fucking street.
I'm a CBT defender, but I don't think it's right for every client. It depends on what their goals are. CBT works really well in my experience for clients who are very practical, who want solutions focused work, or who have done a lot of introspection on their own and need support turning that into change.
This is interesting because I feel like I have tried CBT with therapists before and I have a ton of introspection, but I felt like CBT did nothing to translate that into change! It was very like "Yeah dude I already know the fact to challenge this thought with but that's not helping me."
I don't understand what their intention was but I'd say as a bi woman married to a cis het man I'm "hetero -passing." I'm open to thoughts on this but my initial instinct would be that naming that in a signature would be for my own benefit rather than the benefit of others, but I guess maybe a person in that situation might think it could make queer clients more comfortable with them?
I just can't imagine the purpose of listing that instead of "(bisexual)," if that is their intention.
I'm struggling with this so much with our practicum students right now. They're all very intervention-focused, to the point one of them felt they did a bad job in a session the other day because the client didn't want to be taught a new skill.
I'm a practicum student dealing with the other side of this! I feel like my school is very DO YOU HAVE A MODEL YET? BETTER BE ONE OF THE ONES WE THINK IS RIGHT and I'm like jesus christ cool now I have to effectively be dishonest on my theory of change papers for the sake of graduating and also worry about shoehorning in techniques to demonstrate adherence to a model I don't even necessarily think is correct for the client.
So is it normal for lash extensions to sometime be uncomfortable/slightly painful? I’m getting my first in august and super nervous I’ll end up in a lot of pain :/
I would say it's common but it's not correct. If you are mindful of keeping your eyes closed, you should be good (assuming you're not surprise allergic etc.). I had a lotttt of tearing up/burning during the process because I didn't know how important it was to keep your eyes fully closed.
These are amazing! If In socal can you dm me their name?
DM'd!
What is his terrarium like? How big of a space does he need? I wish they were legal in the US what a cutiepie.
He has an 80L tank! They don't need much, enoufh to move around freely. And it shouldn't be too tall, they're prone to falling off the ceiling of the tank because they're heavy. Mine has a 45x45x30cm terrarium
Oh so much smaller than you'd think! Convenient compact babyyyyy
That cat is literally my PLD. Same exact pose.
Yeah my DRK is a bicep flex. I have been seen.
I suggest you learn machine work style permanent makeup, and not Microblading. The industry is moving away from microblading. If you learn to work with a machine, you can learn anything: powder/ombré brow, nano brow, lips, eyeliner, scar camouflage, restorative tattooing.
How would I search for someone who does this? If I'm looking at an artist's Instagram or web site what keywords do I wanna look for? I have oily skin so I'm very interested.
Did this ever resolve? My friends like YTM so I tried it and I cannot get it to fucking stop playing country. Do I just need to trust the process of thumbs-down-ing songs?
If your skin tolerates copper peptides ok then yes that's fine! But those can either induce or make you more prone to some additional irritation in combination with other actives like retinoids or exfoliants. And using exfoliating acids layered with peptides can reduce the efficacy of the peptides (which meh, I don't think I would worry about unless you are on a super tight budget since the product is cheap so some benefit is still nice).
Oh so maybe at first I could try a day with just the peptide, and if that goes okay, I could do the peptide AM and retinoid or exfoliant in PM to avoid layering irritation?
Botox is obviously the biggest one. The Inkey list eye retinol cream is a good eye safe option. An Argireline serum like The Ordinary one is a good option as an alternative to Botox. The Good Molecules Super Peptide serum is also an option with Argireline you want to include some peptides.
I tried Botox once and I've love to get back to it when my income can accommodate it! It also stop being effective after only two months so I think I'd need to try a different kind or something because whew that's so fast.
It's absolute garbage that the program coordinator isn't helping. My faculty told us in mid-January that if we hadn't already started looking for June we were late, and later I found out that a lot of sites don't start caring about applications until March so I had applied too early, essentially. At the same time, none of the sites got back to me in March -- the only two places that asked me to interview thankfully sent me offers. It is wild to me that it doesn't function more like MSW where we not only start our first year but are placed. I have no advice, only commiseration :(.
She literally said on a zoom info session "I don't have time to keep this list updated." MA'AM THAT'S YOUR JOB. HIRE A GA IF THAT'S THE CASE. I appreciate your commiseration and am happy you found a site!! Best of luck!
Omg that is literally her job what is happeninggggggg. Are there any other coordinators who aren't assigned to you that could help? Or a program director you could ~ innocently ask ~ about the list?
i haven’t used a different primer but used to have this problem ALL the time. try setting your liner and the area it transfers to with setting powder. hope it helps :3
I have an extremely old Laura Mercier translucent setting powder I will try! Just dab it on top and on the part that it falls to?
yes set the liner itself and where it smudges :3
I will try this, thank you :)
And yet incels think that telling us we'll be 50, single, with no kids and a bunch of cats, is a threat or an insult. It is a GOAL for some of us!
Truly the main thing that upsets me about my chronically single status is that rent is so goddamn expensive. The scope of my life is significantly decreased by my rent being so much higher than that of cohabitating couples.
Do we know when more episodes are coming out?