If he is willing to put you 2nd after the boys and a truck, then once married you will always come 2nd. Take whatever part of the money you have invested into the honeymoon, and the wedding, and take yourself of a singles trip. There is companies that specialize in trips and could set you up with an amazing Paris trip. So he takes your honeymoon money and invest in a monster truck plus cost of upkeep, what will he sell or take next time to keep up with the boys. If you got pregnant and was saving for a nursery would he take that money and say he's going on a deep seas fishing trip with the boys. Your 23 and have plenty of time, time to put yourself first and either kick him to the curb or move out.Â
NTA but her using religious beliefs is bs. God doesn't tell us we can't donate a kidney to someone. But despite being the same blood type doesn't mean your able too. After some test a Dr could say no.
Unfortunately most states the only expenses they consider is your house payment, rent or lease, your utilities which would be gas and electricity. My state phone is considered an expense. Unfortunately insurance, car payment, credit card payments don't count. If you have more then one vehicle that would be counted against you.
At work our pens are constantly stolen. So we have very cheap Bic pens for clients and we do not dare give then one of ours to use. I like sparkly blingy pens, as one as the ink is blue or black who cares how tacky they can be.
Ppl like her are annoying as heck. Just has to be in the spotlight. I would really have to start distancing myself from her. Tell hubby she is annoying the crap out of you with the constant reminder she knew him first. Eventually you may snap and say well good thing no one cares. But if you started to date before you met her, then she didn't approve of anything, but she thinks she did.
Being drunk is no excuse, he decided to get himself into a situation that made it easy for him to cheat. Once the trust is broken and they cheat nothing is the same ever again. Your not the same, and the relationship will never go back to how it was. My ex cheated on me with someone that was supposed to be my friend, and lied saying they was going to visit their grandma. We tried again, but mentally part of me checked out. As much as you love someone once the trust is broken there is no easy way to fix it. And they never 100% get your trust back. What happens next time he gets drunk, what happens next time he is out with buddies, or what happens next time the person he slept with comes around. Cheating was always my deal breaker, especially after being cheated on. You deserve better then someone who has cheated and could cheat again. Heck if you got married what happens if he started an affair. There is people out there who are faithful and committed, who will never cheat. The damage is done, a bandaid won't fix it, you grow from this and move on, you don't deserve the pain and hurt he put you through. In time someone else will come along, and maybe the now ex isn't the one your supposed to spend the rest of your life with, especially since now he will always be known as a cheater. Usually once someone cheats they do it again, it becomes easier to cheat.
Plenty of woman raise children by themselves, plenty of resources to help as well. If good friends with his sis I would probably call her, have her come over and show her what the scum of a brother did to his pregnant girlfriend. Sadly sound like he ghosted you. But you have a therapist and family who you can turn to for help, and once the baby is born he can suffer with having to pay child support, he shouldn't get to live comfortably ad you should go after the full amount. Sadly your feelings of being insecure could of been you picking up red flags and not realizing it. You don't need a POS like him in your life, and your a strong woman, because you will get through this. Also call someone close because stress is bad for baby. I would be petty and wash his clothes in bleach or something to color them, turn it all pink.
You may of originally thought she forgave you and she might have told you that, but you cheating even if it was due to being drunk or not, she didn't actually forgive you. The right opportunity came by and so she took it, yours could of been worse because you was drunk and could of gotten the other person pregnant. If you remembered a condom, then you would of remembered you was married. You may still be married but you broke the marriage the min you slept with someone else.
3 yrs and chose to not do something else. My partner would be in the dog house, and I would make sure they knew how upset I was at them. If you do stick together next time he goes on about a friend's bday I would be like so your remember there's but mine was so important your forgot and couldn't spend time with me. You should pay him the same respect come his bday as he has shown you. 3 yrs your bday should be one of the days that is a top priority.
He ghosted you and then gave some lame excuse. You was in a relationship, what did he expect, was he only in it for fun and nothing serious. You two already parted ways, you have moved on, best to keep things that way. Nothing will stop him from doing it again, and hurting you again.
So NTA. If your going to be out of town they have no reason to stay at your house. They are just using you so they don't have to get a hotel room. If I was in your shoes I wouldn't let then either.
NTA but being married 4 yrs and he treats you this way. Doesnt seem like you two are married, he blocked you so other females can't see what you put and figure out he is married. You may want to hire a detective because good chance he may be living like a single man with a gf, or a mistress who may be acting like his wife.
This one Definitely deserves a YTA award. Mom was so excited to get to spend time with you. Plus do something she enjoys, then you backout because of a dog. Wow shows where your mom ranks in your life. Good thing your mom has your sis to do things with because obviously your not a person of your word, and puppy needs all your attention. Just because he is a large breed does not mean he is a guard dog.
Good for you, you and your daughter will be better off. Save up and take her on vacation somewhere south like Florida and then post pics of eating fresh seafood, and having the time of your life on a sunny beach. Husband has his bf to keep his bed warm now since bf seems to be more important then his family.
You two want different things. She wants an open relationship where she can sleep around. Once you give the okay and she sleeps with someone else will you be able to be okay with it or feel betrayed and that she cheated on you. If you say no will she cheat anyways. If she doesn't want to be monogamous but you do then go separate ways. You love her but she isn't completely committed to you because she wants other sex partners
Talk to a lawyer and file for divorce. Unless he got caught then the affair would of went on. Even if he gives all sorts of excuses and says it won't happen again, your marriage will never be the same, he is a proven liar so you will never be able to trust him. What would happen if his mistress got pregnant. Divorce, go for full custody and child support. He doesnt deserve you, plus now you need to get an std test done because who knows how many times he cheated. Even the ones who wanted to work it out that betrayal can never be undone.
So glad everyone is pointing out YTA, seems your the one one that has problems or issues with the boys and their Dads neck. But to get to the end and see the word inappropriate shame on you. Leave the boys alone, they are doing nothing wrong. Once they become teens and adults you will miss this phase.
She is 19 which she is an adult and full well knows what she is doing, she's also daddies little princess despite the age so she uses that to her favor. Unfortunately she doesn't like you so will do whatever she can to be mean and spiteful to you. Hopefully husband wakes up and sees what his daughter does before she causes your marriage to end. Him saying she is a child is BS because she is 19 not 12 or 13.
Since she is being childish and treats you this way, then make the final discussion and just end it. It's stressful and taking a toll on you especially mentally. So why put up with being ghosted or her blocking you to hide things from you. Really it sounds like you two aren't in a serious relationship so end it and take time away from the stress and her drama.
Good for you. You now don't have to deal with all the stress or her being immature. Now she may go crazy and try to talk to you, give all sorts of excuses to try and get back together just to string you along again, but nope don't do it. You have more important things to deal with then someone who acts like they are in high-school who picks and chooses when she will answer you or block you cause their might be a pic of some other guy on their social media.
If I wasn't invited to a baby shower I wouldn't send a gift. Really if she doesn't think your not good enough to attend then she doesn't deserve a gift. If she wants to know about a gift then tell her you wasn't invited to her babysitter so didn't think she wanted anything from you.
Dump him you don't deserve to be treated that way especially to be talked to like that. A man that loves you would not say those things. He is mentally abusive and woman who stay with men like that have had to go through years of therapy once they opened their eyes to the abuse. A man who loves you will love you and build you up, even on your worst days. He is a POS who will never change. Find a real man who will treat you like a queen not some looser.
To you he may of just asked out of the blue, but really how long has he been in touch with her, he was her coach so they would of had each others number, but he does like to keep secrets so who knows if he was or was not having an affair.
NTA he was going to end up losing his job anyways, or be told either turn in a Dr's note and either be suspended or fired. Most places have point systems anyways and it was just a matter of time before he was fired anyways. Man child needs to grow up and be a man instead of lazy and doing nothing
Apologize to grandma she meant well. But as dad chose his wife over you and sent you away over a broken vase, then send him a card congratulating him on the new baby, then insert hopefully you won't throw him away like you did me when I was 8 over a broken vase, but please don't contact me again as my dad abandoned me many yrs ago and I no longer have a dad. Also let grandma know you have someone else to walk you down the aisle and your not intending on inviting your he lost that privilege yrs ago.
If he is willing to put you 2nd after the boys and a truck, then once married you will always come 2nd. Take whatever part of the money you have invested into the honeymoon, and the wedding, and take yourself of a singles trip. There is companies that specialize in trips and could set you up with an amazing Paris trip. So he takes your honeymoon money and invest in a monster truck plus cost of upkeep, what will he sell or take next time to keep up with the boys. If you got pregnant and was saving for a nursery would he take that money and say he's going on a deep seas fishing trip with the boys. Your 23 and have plenty of time, time to put yourself first and either kick him to the curb or move out.Â
NTA but her using religious beliefs is bs. God doesn't tell us we can't donate a kidney to someone. But despite being the same blood type doesn't mean your able too. After some test a Dr could say no.
Unfortunately most states the only expenses they consider is your house payment, rent or lease, your utilities which would be gas and electricity. My state phone is considered an expense. Unfortunately insurance, car payment, credit card payments don't count. If you have more then one vehicle that would be counted against you.
At work our pens are constantly stolen. So we have very cheap Bic pens for clients and we do not dare give then one of ours to use. I like sparkly blingy pens, as one as the ink is blue or black who cares how tacky they can be.
Ppl like her are annoying as heck. Just has to be in the spotlight. I would really have to start distancing myself from her. Tell hubby she is annoying the crap out of you with the constant reminder she knew him first. Eventually you may snap and say well good thing no one cares. But if you started to date before you met her, then she didn't approve of anything, but she thinks she did.
Being drunk is no excuse, he decided to get himself into a situation that made it easy for him to cheat. Once the trust is broken and they cheat nothing is the same ever again. Your not the same, and the relationship will never go back to how it was. My ex cheated on me with someone that was supposed to be my friend, and lied saying they was going to visit their grandma. We tried again, but mentally part of me checked out. As much as you love someone once the trust is broken there is no easy way to fix it. And they never 100% get your trust back. What happens next time he gets drunk, what happens next time he is out with buddies, or what happens next time the person he slept with comes around. Cheating was always my deal breaker, especially after being cheated on. You deserve better then someone who has cheated and could cheat again. Heck if you got married what happens if he started an affair. There is people out there who are faithful and committed, who will never cheat. The damage is done, a bandaid won't fix it, you grow from this and move on, you don't deserve the pain and hurt he put you through. In time someone else will come along, and maybe the now ex isn't the one your supposed to spend the rest of your life with, especially since now he will always be known as a cheater. Usually once someone cheats they do it again, it becomes easier to cheat.
Well either dad gives the money back or his secret affair will come out. Why keep his dirty secret when he steals your money.
Plenty of woman raise children by themselves, plenty of resources to help as well. If good friends with his sis I would probably call her, have her come over and show her what the scum of a brother did to his pregnant girlfriend. Sadly sound like he ghosted you. But you have a therapist and family who you can turn to for help, and once the baby is born he can suffer with having to pay child support, he shouldn't get to live comfortably ad you should go after the full amount. Sadly your feelings of being insecure could of been you picking up red flags and not realizing it. You don't need a POS like him in your life, and your a strong woman, because you will get through this. Also call someone close because stress is bad for baby. I would be petty and wash his clothes in bleach or something to color them, turn it all pink.
You may of originally thought she forgave you and she might have told you that, but you cheating even if it was due to being drunk or not, she didn't actually forgive you. The right opportunity came by and so she took it, yours could of been worse because you was drunk and could of gotten the other person pregnant. If you remembered a condom, then you would of remembered you was married. You may still be married but you broke the marriage the min you slept with someone else.
3 yrs and chose to not do something else. My partner would be in the dog house, and I would make sure they knew how upset I was at them. If you do stick together next time he goes on about a friend's bday I would be like so your remember there's but mine was so important your forgot and couldn't spend time with me. You should pay him the same respect come his bday as he has shown you. 3 yrs your bday should be one of the days that is a top priority.
He ghosted you and then gave some lame excuse. You was in a relationship, what did he expect, was he only in it for fun and nothing serious. You two already parted ways, you have moved on, best to keep things that way. Nothing will stop him from doing it again, and hurting you again.
So NTA. If your going to be out of town they have no reason to stay at your house. They are just using you so they don't have to get a hotel room. If I was in your shoes I wouldn't let then either.
NTA but being married 4 yrs and he treats you this way. Doesnt seem like you two are married, he blocked you so other females can't see what you put and figure out he is married. You may want to hire a detective because good chance he may be living like a single man with a gf, or a mistress who may be acting like his wife.
This one Definitely deserves a YTA award. Mom was so excited to get to spend time with you. Plus do something she enjoys, then you backout because of a dog. Wow shows where your mom ranks in your life. Good thing your mom has your sis to do things with because obviously your not a person of your word, and puppy needs all your attention. Just because he is a large breed does not mean he is a guard dog.
Good for you, you and your daughter will be better off. Save up and take her on vacation somewhere south like Florida and then post pics of eating fresh seafood, and having the time of your life on a sunny beach. Husband has his bf to keep his bed warm now since bf seems to be more important then his family.
You two want different things. She wants an open relationship where she can sleep around. Once you give the okay and she sleeps with someone else will you be able to be okay with it or feel betrayed and that she cheated on you. If you say no will she cheat anyways. If she doesn't want to be monogamous but you do then go separate ways. You love her but she isn't completely committed to you because she wants other sex partners
Talk to a lawyer and file for divorce. Unless he got caught then the affair would of went on. Even if he gives all sorts of excuses and says it won't happen again, your marriage will never be the same, he is a proven liar so you will never be able to trust him. What would happen if his mistress got pregnant. Divorce, go for full custody and child support. He doesnt deserve you, plus now you need to get an std test done because who knows how many times he cheated. Even the ones who wanted to work it out that betrayal can never be undone.
So glad everyone is pointing out YTA, seems your the one one that has problems or issues with the boys and their Dads neck. But to get to the end and see the word inappropriate shame on you. Leave the boys alone, they are doing nothing wrong. Once they become teens and adults you will miss this phase.
She is 19 which she is an adult and full well knows what she is doing, she's also daddies little princess despite the age so she uses that to her favor. Unfortunately she doesn't like you so will do whatever she can to be mean and spiteful to you. Hopefully husband wakes up and sees what his daughter does before she causes your marriage to end. Him saying she is a child is BS because she is 19 not 12 or 13.
Since she is being childish and treats you this way, then make the final discussion and just end it. It's stressful and taking a toll on you especially mentally. So why put up with being ghosted or her blocking you to hide things from you. Really it sounds like you two aren't in a serious relationship so end it and take time away from the stress and her drama.
I have ended it and removed her from social media
Good for you. You now don't have to deal with all the stress or her being immature. Now she may go crazy and try to talk to you, give all sorts of excuses to try and get back together just to string you along again, but nope don't do it. You have more important things to deal with then someone who acts like they are in high-school who picks and chooses when she will answer you or block you cause their might be a pic of some other guy on their social media.
If I wasn't invited to a baby shower I wouldn't send a gift. Really if she doesn't think your not good enough to attend then she doesn't deserve a gift. If she wants to know about a gift then tell her you wasn't invited to her babysitter so didn't think she wanted anything from you.
Dump him you don't deserve to be treated that way especially to be talked to like that. A man that loves you would not say those things. He is mentally abusive and woman who stay with men like that have had to go through years of therapy once they opened their eyes to the abuse. A man who loves you will love you and build you up, even on your worst days. He is a POS who will never change. Find a real man who will treat you like a queen not some looser.
To you he may of just asked out of the blue, but really how long has he been in touch with her, he was her coach so they would of had each others number, but he does like to keep secrets so who knows if he was or was not having an affair.
NTA he was going to end up losing his job anyways, or be told either turn in a Dr's note and either be suspended or fired. Most places have point systems anyways and it was just a matter of time before he was fired anyways. Man child needs to grow up and be a man instead of lazy and doing nothing
Apologize to grandma she meant well. But as dad chose his wife over you and sent you away over a broken vase, then send him a card congratulating him on the new baby, then insert hopefully you won't throw him away like you did me when I was 8 over a broken vase, but please don't contact me again as my dad abandoned me many yrs ago and I no longer have a dad. Also let grandma know you have someone else to walk you down the aisle and your not intending on inviting your he lost that privilege yrs ago.