It's like a college girl thing, I've seen it in other contexts but it's mostly younger girls or older busted girls. I seldom see an attractive woman over 25 bring this up in their bio or in conversations.
Nah, "you first", and when she replies say "sorry", and then unmatch her. Leave her wondering what's wrong with aspects of her physique that she can't change.
Is this an american thing or something? I have been on tinder for a while in Europe but nobody ever asked me this. It's so weird seeing it this much on this subreddit.
Height is a big topic on german tinder as well, in my expirience it just takes a little longer until it gets brought up in a conversation after a match. I've even had girls tell me "you should add your height in your bio, your pictures make you look smaller than you are" (1,88m)
It's a dating thing in general and everywhere, I had to put my height in the bio (5"7") to stop getting it and my matches dropped 5-10 times after I did so but at least now I know from the start she won't mind it.
Confirmation bias maybe. You see all the times it does happen, because they get posted on this sub. All the normal and respectful interactions don't get posted.
I feel the same. My very first boyfriend was probably 5’4 to 5’5. My current boyfriend is I’d say 5’7 to 5’8, I’m 5’5 and some change. Ive also dated men who are 6’1 to 6’4. I honestly don’t care. Like just treat me well, have good chemistry, and don’t have the Napoleon Complex if your short.
I genuinely don't mind people asking about height. If height is important to you, it's important to you. There's zero shame in that. I've got my preferences too and I won't compromise on them.
I’m with you. It sucks that people are shallow but it’s a dating app. It’s whole purpose is to let people sift through unlimited options to find their preference. If you’re ugly you won’t even match in the first place. We just see a lot of these threads because you can capture the vetting process for height, unlike some other things . Also just in general lots of guys who wouldn’t give an ugly or overweight girl the time of day get so upset by being judged by similar standards. Also I’m 5’9” and very average looking lol
We all have preferences, but it's one thing to look for a girl with a good looking figure, while it's quite bizarre to straight up ask someone for their precise anatomic measurements.
What's also done is most of these chick's will see a 5'10" guy irl and believe he's 6'3". They don't actually like insanely tall guys, they like average sized guys but have a completely skewed view of what that is.
Like less than 20% of men in the US are over 6 ft tall, if women only want guys who are 6 ft tall, then in 100 years or so the average height is going to be closer to 6 ft tall for men because of selective breeding, then what is going to be considered tall then at that point?
It's always (below)average looking men and women who have a laundry list of boxes they need checked before they'll even pretend to engage in a conversation.
As someone who’s 6’4 I just want to go on record and say when girls ask me this I instantly call them shallow and unmatch. I got your back short homies
Any girl who cares more about that than what else you have on your profile showing you’d be a match isn’t worth your time. Delete and move on, engaging further won’t change anything so may as well focus your time on finding the right one
When they ask about my height I like to ask about their weight. It's funny when they get offended, but I'm like "I can't physically change my height, but you can do something about your weight".
Proper response is to reply with asking her about a physical, unchangeable feature of her that is within your sexual preference, considering we're doing tit for tat now
Hurts the vulnerable narcissists who can't accept that it's okay for women to be selective. Apparently OP swiped right because of what she wrote in her profile.
It's putting the cart before the horse. How tall you perceive someone is influenced by how confident they portray themselves and how you feel about that person. You can't really answer that over chat... You have to meet to find out.
As a guy yeah, just tell them your height, people are allowed preferences. If your short why would you want someone who wants a tall person. These girls on tinder have a lot of options and your expecting them to settle for someone shorter for no reason than your own insecurity.
It's not that she has a preference, of course she is allowed to have some. It's the way she communicates that preference, it's really shallow. Imagine a guy ignoring the conversation and just bluntly asking these kind of questions, he would be shamed to the ground (for a reason).
Then we’d get no matches at all. I did this experiment, I spent about a week showing my actual height (5’6) and got three matches that whole week. I showed a fake height for another week (6’2). Same area, same pictures, and i got like 30 that week.
I'm 5'7 and my boyfriend is 5'9. In heels I'm as tall or taller than him. 5'9 is not bad at all! I am above average in height where I am from and he is about average.
It's strange how this outdated question keeps popping up its ugly head, especially with college age women, who are generally on the forefront of promoting progressive social movements.
Just put your height in profile, put 2 inches less than what you actually are this weeds out the superficial skanks and the ones who don't care are pleasantly surprised when you go on a date "you're taller than I thought you were" fool proof.
I don’t get this site and height. If the chick likes tall dudes then so what? “Ask HoW mUcH sHe WeIgHs” you can SEE her weight and determine if you’re attracted to her, no? Is that not what she’s doing here? Is height not a factor of attraction or what?
They are honestly very insecure, but most men are with their heights especially today with social media or online dating. It’s that we do learn about evolution in our high school but never in the detail that explains why certain traits are favoured over others, if they did this then things would have been a whole lot better
its funny how petty you are to only partially block her name so it's still visible and also not even bother with the profile picture anyway because who cares.
She might be asking because she's quite tall and doesn't wanna date anyone shorter than her? Just answer and move on with the conversation, it isn't a big deal
The question is reasonable, although mostly irrelevant. And wasn't asked at an appropriate moment. The correct response to polite conversation is always polite conversation in return!
“Between 3’0” and 8’5”.
I also like "a gentleman never tells."
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Between 4’20” and 6’9”
6'-2" (and hope she doesn't notice the negative sign)
9'23", hbu?
Doesn't matter when your horizontal......
Depending on what’s least popular for measuring height where you are, respond in meters or feet and see if she can convert
Respond in miles, see if she can figure that one out!
I once told a girl I am 74 inches tall after she asked and she said “ooo I love riddles”
Respond in Ångström. That makes everyone seem tall
Convert your height to average banana size and send her your height in bananas.
"Oh I see you have no trouble converting. Good cause I'm (insert fanatic religion) and you have to be too"
Hit her with 152cm
I had a guy tell me he was 9 penis lengths tall, and to do with that information what I would. I won't lie, I had my fingers crossed for 6'6" lol
I feel like this is an American chick thing?
It's like a college girl thing, I've seen it in other contexts but it's mostly younger girls or older busted girls. I seldom see an attractive woman over 25 bring this up in their bio or in conversations.
Nope. It's the same Thing in Austria as well. Being tall is the most important personality trait for many women.
Respond like this, 178 cm convert to feet, oh shit this is not google
I'm an american living overseas and dated a few non americans... they dont give a shit how tall you are...
I was about to say this is a Chinese chick thing
Oh, the same applies to germany. I read quite often "Looking for 1,80 m upwards" (6 feet). So it seems to be an international thing
Nope, is a worldwide thing.
Just respond with 6’3” then unmatch her.
Don't unmatched, left on read 👌
Nah, "you first", and when she replies say "sorry", and then unmatch her. Leave her wondering what's wrong with aspects of her physique that she can't change.
than she answers "sorry, i prefer smaller guys... but good luck"
But quick enough for her not to reply with "Ugh. I only date 6'4 minimum".
What's with everyone shaming people that have preferences?
Is this an american thing or something? I have been on tinder for a while in Europe but nobody ever asked me this. It's so weird seeing it this much on this subreddit.
Height is a big topic on german tinder as well, in my expirience it just takes a little longer until it gets brought up in a conversation after a match. I've even had girls tell me "you should add your height in your bio, your pictures make you look smaller than you are" (1,88m)
It's a thing in the Netherlands for girls over 185cm that a boy must be at least just as long.
Definitely an american thing.
It's a dating thing in general and everywhere, I had to put my height in the bio (5"7") to stop getting it and my matches dropped 5-10 times after I did so but at least now I know from the start she won't mind it.
My experience in France is that this happens ALL THE TIME.
Confirmation bias maybe. You see all the times it does happen, because they get posted on this sub. All the normal and respectful interactions don't get posted.
You must have your height listed, or insanely attractive
As a Swede I can chime in with that I quite often do see women having a preference of tall men written in their bio.
I'm not convinced this sub hasn't gone the way of
because they’re tall over there,
I'm from London and had this quite a few times.
Nah I think it's just a dating app thing, I've seen it happen plenty in Europe
Might be an instinct thing as well. Taller = stronger and woman like to feel safe
Its a new world thing. Low context cultures are all about quantity, measurability. Old world cultures are about quality.
North American thing. It’s not enough to be taller than her, for some reason a lot of women want giants. Not sure why.
Maybe because American height usually varied, while in most countries with the native population most males have a similar height
Well how tall are you then?
Tall enough to see your shallow ass coming from a mile away.
just say “k” and leave it. triggers everybody
I fucking love “k”.
Ask how much she weighs
I actually did this once, and she told me! It earned my respect. I didn't date her though. Way too fat.
Ask her cup size
It’s ok to want to know someone’s height. I’m taller than the average woman and don’t wanna be rocking about with a Danny Devito.
Short men, and men with small penises are the two most insufferable groups of people, by far.
I feel like I am the only women who is attracted to small men lol
No, my sister exclusively dates dudes under 6 feet. My mom is also an inch taller than my dad
👋
I’m 5’-3”. My wife is 5’-7”.
How tall are you tho?
I feel the same. My very first boyfriend was probably 5’4 to 5’5. My current boyfriend is I’d say 5’7 to 5’8, I’m 5’5 and some change. Ive also dated men who are 6’1 to 6’4. I honestly don’t care. Like just treat me well, have good chemistry, and don’t have the Napoleon Complex if your short.
I’m 5’5, my bf is 5’7 and I think he’s the perfect height difference to hug/kiss 🤷🏻♀️ it’s great
How small is small?
Nice work blocking out “Sam”
Ikr
I genuinely don't mind people asking about height. If height is important to you, it's important to you. There's zero shame in that. I've got my preferences too and I won't compromise on them.
Maybe his height is very much tied to looking at his eyes lol.
Suppose this is why people lie and say they’re taller than they are 🤷🏻♂️.
I’m with you. It sucks that people are shallow but it’s a dating app. It’s whole purpose is to let people sift through unlimited options to find their preference. If you’re ugly you won’t even match in the first place. We just see a lot of these threads because you can capture the vetting process for height, unlike some other things . Also just in general lots of guys who wouldn’t give an ugly or overweight girl the time of day get so upset by being judged by similar standards. Also I’m 5’9” and very average looking lol
We all have preferences, but it's one thing to look for a girl with a good looking figure, while it's quite bizarre to straight up ask someone for their precise anatomic measurements.
Why don't guys just put it in their bio? A lot of women clearly want to know so just suck it up and avoid the awkward conversation.
What's also done is most of these chick's will see a 5'10" guy irl and believe he's 6'3". They don't actually like insanely tall guys, they like average sized guys but have a completely skewed view of what that is.
What's your body fat %?
I have never seen the word "How'er" before.
You still haven't. It's "how're"
Southern Gentlemen intensifies
What're strange occ'er'ance
Ask her weight and you can filter out any double standard hypocrites
Except it isn’t a double standard, chunkies can lose weight, shorties can’t get taller…
PLEASE DO IT! And then update us on it!
How much you weigh?
It's not same type of question, you can control your weight in 99%, Ask her about her breast size
Nah, guys need to ask how tight that Vaj is.
I suppose she wouldn't mind if you ask her how big her boobs are in return 🤔
How heavy.. fake or not
Can a rowboat support her?
Always say 6’5 and never reply back. Hit them back
What's the problem? Just be tall lol.
Who isn’t over 6 foot these days lol
“On a scale of 1 to 10, how likely would I be to survive a freefall using your vag as a parachute?”
I was going to go with a "how much do you weigg" response, but this is my new favorite
Underrated, my new GOD accept.me bowing down 🙇
I’ve been lurking this sub for a while, is the height question really that common?
Yes, height is one of the most important asset for a man besides his status and resources
Like less than 20% of men in the US are over 6 ft tall, if women only want guys who are 6 ft tall, then in 100 years or so the average height is going to be closer to 6 ft tall for men because of selective breeding, then what is going to be considered tall then at that point?
As a girl, i gotta tell ya
The women's equivalent of "want to see my dick"
"This is the reason why woman mostly stay single on Tinder: HoW TaLL aRe yOu?"
They don't though. Pretty rare that women don't have suitors lined up especially if they're attractive.
And a lot of women don't even know the average height for men in their own country. In US average height for men is 5'9" and for women is 5'4".
Short men, and men with small penises are the two most insufferable groups of people, by far.
What's with everyone shaming people that have preferences?
"depends how big your tits are"
This has to be a US thing
Damn no small talk just dropped the height penis bam on the table
Reply with “how much do you weigh”
Should've just asked her her weight.
Also this woman- "stop objectifying us"
It's always (below)average looking men and women who have a laundry list of boxes they need checked before they'll even pretend to engage in a conversation.
As a married man that's never used a dating app, here's what I know about tinder from redit posts alone:
OH NO NO NO *wheeze* Ahah hah hah hah hah haa
Nice name censorship
Man if I was still on tinder I'd be a god with my 6ft5
As someone who’s 6’4 I just want to go on record and say when girls ask me this I instantly call them shallow and unmatch. I got your back short homies
PLEASE QUESTION FOR THE DUDES.
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Any girl who cares more about that than what else you have on your profile showing you’d be a match isn’t worth your time. Delete and move on, engaging further won’t change anything so may as well focus your time on finding the right one
How wide is your vag canal?
The ill advised Bee Gees follow up single to 'How Deep is Your Love?'
bout the same as grand canyon. but it's her first time lmao
how far can u squirt?
When they ask about my height I like to ask about their weight. It's funny when they get offended, but I'm like "I can't physically change my height, but you can do something about your weight".
It's funny to think how much tall guys with no real prospects in life must be slaying it these days.
They are. It makes short dudes like me absolutely miserable
It's usually girls who have daddy issues. They want a tall guy, tall like their dad.
Proper response is to reply with asking her about a physical, unchangeable feature of her that is within your sexual preference, considering we're doing tit for tat now
Unpopular opinion: Dating apps have made women on it more entitled and obnoxious.
I’m convinced the sub is about 80% just short dudes getting mad
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What’s the deal with asking this?
Double standards.
It's a preference for some people, and usually they can't tell height from pictures.
Hurts the vulnerable narcissists who can't accept that it's okay for women to be selective. Apparently OP swiped right because of what she wrote in her profile.
It's putting the cart before the horse. How tall you perceive someone is influenced by how confident they portray themselves and how you feel about that person. You can't really answer that over chat... You have to meet to find out.
Damn, you had such a smooth Response too. Just ask her how much she weighs and get it over with
I can’t believe women/girls are like this. My bf is 5’6” juicy and muscular - he’s really hot! Glad so many women probably filtered him away
As a guy yeah, just tell them your height, people are allowed preferences. If your short why would you want someone who wants a tall person. These girls on tinder have a lot of options and your expecting them to settle for someone shorter for no reason than your own insecurity.
It's not that she has a preference, of course she is allowed to have some. It's the way she communicates that preference, it's really shallow. Imagine a guy ignoring the conversation and just bluntly asking these kind of questions, he would be shamed to the ground (for a reason).
The psycho robot females only see their objective. F your questions, emotions and soul, do you meet my goals?
I mean that is the point though. You see if some one meets your standards and then you invest in them.
Man using date apps. 🤗🤣🤣🤣🤣
As a woman who is 5 foot tall, just tell her to fuck off. Or unmatch. Either way.
Ask that bitch how much she makes
So many dudes complain about this, why don’t you guys just put your height in your bio? Problem solved
Funny thing is that I did
Agreed as long as women put their weight in.
Then we’d get no matches at all. I did this experiment, I spent about a week showing my actual height (5’6) and got three matches that whole week. I showed a fake height for another week (6’2). Same area, same pictures, and i got like 30 that week.
You assume people read. She said what she was focused on.
If guys all did that, some would never get swiped on
Ladies what’s the actual bad answer to this? Like Under 5’ 6 or something? I’m 5’ 9, am I fine or is that bad? If so, how bad?
Man honestly if you don't say 6' you are out for most of these chicks who don't even know how tall 6' actually is.
I'm 5'7 and my boyfriend is 5'9. In heels I'm as tall or taller than him. 5'9 is not bad at all! I am above average in height where I am from and he is about average.
Why not say your 6 3, have a conversation. Make a date and then ask what boob size she is or waist.. the complain.
It's strange how this outdated question keeps popping up its ugly head, especially with college age women, who are generally on the forefront of promoting progressive social movements.
just ask for her weight in return
Just put your height in profile, put 2 inches less than what you actually are this weeds out the superficial skanks and the ones who don't care are pleasantly surprised when you go on a date "you're taller than I thought you were" fool proof.
What's the issue?
It was either that or "What do you do?" (How much money do you make). Classic hypergamy.
Boobs & weight just isn’t the same as height
How
In what ?
tall enough to look down on you
How tall are your eyes
Don’t be that girl, Sam.
Honestly even if I was tall I wouldn't dignify em with a response....
Why didn’t you ask how much she weighed?
"how deep is your cervix?"
What her weight..
Dafuq is that american shit
Reply with” whats your weight”?
A very american thing, asking about heights
Ask her how wide her vag is
Ask her waist and cup size see how she likes that.
Ask what she weighs
My personality is 6'4 if that matters.
I don’t get this site and height. If the chick likes tall dudes then so what? “Ask HoW mUcH sHe WeIgHs” you can SEE her weight and determine if you’re attracted to her, no? Is that not what she’s doing here? Is height not a factor of attraction or what?
They are honestly very insecure, but most men are with their heights especially today with social media or online dating. It’s that we do learn about evolution in our high school but never in the detail that explains why certain traits are favoured over others, if they did this then things would have been a whole lot better
People are allowed to have physical preferences
Seems like it’s only one preference for the majority of women on dating apps.
its funny how petty you are to only partially block her name so it's still visible and also not even bother with the profile picture anyway because who cares.
Cry
When height is the first filter, it shows she prioritize looks over everything else. Only fair if we ask weight and breast size questions back?
She might be asking because she's quite tall and doesn't wanna date anyone shorter than her? Just answer and move on with the conversation, it isn't a big deal
I know it sucks for extra short guys if they are ridiculed or rejected for their size, but people are allowed to have preferences.
seems like a reasonable question.
Okay but it’s seems rude to just totally ignore the guys question
The question is reasonable, although mostly irrelevant. And wasn't asked at an appropriate moment. The correct response to polite conversation is always polite conversation in return!
Well, asking/curiosity is not a sin, it’s what happens after your response that might be shitty
Now the chats dead gg
"Enough for you to see only the bottom of my chin and not my eyes".
Right to the point 😂😂😂😂
6.5 standing tall
Whats a "no no" height for a man?
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Tell her the L 's rule