1. I've been performing for over 25 years now. There's still always some level of stage fright or whatever you want to call it. It's just something you'll either have to learn to deal with or learn to overcome if you want to perform.

  2. I'm pretty much in the same boat as you. But like you just said, once it's all over you are glad you did it. So just keep trying to put yourself out there until you are comfortable performing.

  3. I totally understand. I haven’t performed for a live audience in a while, but when I was doing it on a regular basis, I hated everything before and after the actual time on stage. I have to pretend like I don’t, because people are just trying to be nice and share a moment with me. But if it were up to me, I would go backstage after the show and not come out lol I don’t really have any advice other than to continue to do it, and you’ll get used to it.

  4. It gets better over time and with lots of live practice. Just keep doing it and it will all fall into place eventually.

  5. Start small, family, friends, etc. Put some time in there. Work your way up. That's a plan. Try to stick to it as best you can.

  6. For me the change came when I started thinking of myself onstage as being a different person, like I was an actor portraying them in a musical play. Of course there was no reason to be embarrassed about any of this character’s actions or failures, it was just the character, not me! I have not felt stage fright since.

  7. I started out singing with backing tracks in my bedroom, and with friends online in a jamming group. My first time I got up and sang in public, I realised: I was hella nervous. I *really* wanted to do this. At the same time, I didn't want to put myself forward. I wanted someone to persist in asking that I get up and sing. And people don't, often. If you want to perform, make yourself get up and do it. Noone will beg you. Noone will make you. Just do it. Be nervous but do it anyway! You can do it!

  8. I was a performer for 20 years, and then one day I just couldn't do it anymore. Didn't enjoy it, hated the pressure and venues and shit I couldn't control.

  9. What’s the difference between a recording artist and performer ? (I’m new to this sub) I thought performers also record music as well?

  10. I think the more effort you put in to monitoring the easier it is to just sink into the music. At that point just embrace the craziness of the show and lose yourself in the music you’ve created. Try and get back in the mindset you were in when you were creating that song

  11. My stage fright is not as severe as my approaching venues to promote myself. I dont know how to get over it. Before in another country I would get calls but in the states i have no network.

  12. I’d love to be told to perform on stage and do quite literally nothing else but practice and write the music. I hate the social media dance, I hate politics in a local scene, I hate having to pretend to care about other bands who’ll never put ten seconds of my music in their ears while needing to gush over them to keep my 20 minute spot.

  13. If you are going to pursue music professionally, touring is a MAYOR stream of income for artists. One think you have to learn as a performer is that all these ideas that you have for yourself (being an "introvert") are malleable and can transform. It just comes down to how much are you willing to change and alter these conceptions that you have about yourself. Most artists create their personas through experimentation and trial & error. I would advise you to jump off the cliff and just do it enough till the familiarity w the stage drowns out the fear and makes it fun/stimulating. That's if you are serious about a career in the music business. There are also people like MF Doom / Daft Punk / Dengue Dengue Dengue that have created masks / avatars that serve as a shield. But, there are so much amazing performers that you would be missing out on a lot of fun that comes with the performative aspect.

  14. Just gotta perform more and get used to it! Know how to find that zen place while having people watch you. Nerves are normal, just gotta ride that high and use it to enhance your focus. A lot of times when adrenaline is flowing on stage, songs will feel drastically slower. I’ve learned this is just your brain entering a hyperfocus mode. Try to stay relaxed during this period and keep your form during the excitement and it’ll balance itself out!

  15. Perform more, find chill environments, as well as hostile ones, the wider range you're used to being in the less it will phase your concentration and you will perform well more often.

  16. I'm not sure how serious your anxiety situation is, but I used to (and continue to) struggle with it. Something that helps me is to really put effort into creating the best possible mental headspace. This includes focusing on breathing, and whenever I'm thinking "I'm nervous/stressed" I try to correct myself to think "I'm excited."

  17. You can present your art in a way that draws attention away from the artist. Definitely more challenging, but look how it worked for Zhu when he first released faded.

  18. Keep doing it and you’ll get more and more comfortable with it. You could start with smaller, less anxiety-inducing settings, like a coffee house with a smallish crowd, or a home performance with close friends.

  19. I feel you, after COVID I started to perform with a mask (I am only a guitarist, so I don’t have to much problem) and I felt really comfortable with that, before that I have to take my time to prepare mentally for the performance, I still do, but know is less pronounced. I guess, what I am trying to say is that you’ll find a way trough it if you really want to do it, if don’t, then as many mentioned it, I don’t see any problem to step down from performing

  20. I’ve performed a lot over the years and till this day I get nervous as fuck right before I go onstage, but for some unknown magical reason, the moment my foot touches the stage I feel like I’m right where I’m supposed to be. Like I’ve never had stage fright or anything like that, never really been shy, so it’s odd to me that I’m always nervous before a show, even more so odd because I know for a fact that I have no reason to be nervous because the moment I touch the stage it goes away. I guess I’m saying this to that it’s probably a natural thing to get nervous before a performance. But after a while you begin to know yourself a bit better and become more comfortable.

  21. I got over it by shifting my mindset. Instead of seeing it like a “me” thing, which was scary, I saw it as a “we” thing, meaning that we’re all kind of performing in our own way while also doing our best to let our authentic selves come through. I’m just the one that’s on stage doing it. But we’re all experiencing it together. Plus when you realize that most people are there for their own experience and not yours, it becomes a lot less personal and a lot more fun.

  22. Being comfortable and confident on stage are skills that take practice to develop. So, go out and play as much as possible.

  23. Hey I've been in this situation. I'm a solo artist so I'm alone on stage and first time it was very stressful (I'm also an introvert and get social anxiety). However I find that a lot of practice (practice untill you can do it without thinking about it) as well as confidence in your songs can help you get confident on stage. One thing that's stressful to me is when you always look in the eyes of the people in the audience, you wonder if they like it and you often interpret their expression and think they really don't like it. However when you don't let this paranoia win you'll see that people like what you're doing. Last thing that helped me is playing with closed eyes so that you can ignore the audience (don't do it during the whole gig but if there's a stressful moment, it can help). Also I say to get confidence in your songs. You need to feel the emotions and energy of your songs and let them out, it's also scary at first because you fear judgment but it can really turn your stress into something powerful.

  24. I’ve been into 2 concerts, sang to over 1000 people each one. Performed 3 songs each. My recommendation is to wear sunglasses on the stage. It really helped me to concentrate and have less fright because I see less people.

  25. Yeah, this happens, I guess, because of popular social stereotypes, like if you play the instrument in front of ppl and they like it, they gonna receive you as a performer and they would ask for more. If one sings he's a singer, if one composes music he's a composer, etc. Nobody asks what you wish and what you like🙄 they used to think someone wanna entertain them, cuz there's already many persons who truly love it and so the society thinks automatically that every talented person is just similar that way. Avicii wasn't, and it led him to death, so everyone should now care of mental health first, if feeling uncomfortable of what ppl say and expect from him. For myself, having some musical abilities, I struggled for almost all my life to not to be taken as a musician cuz I don't see myself that way, I see myself as an administrator, not a creator, all my creations are just the initial content to work with, but not that I gonna tour with that. Never. It's made for another reasons in life, and now I stand on it as hard as I can. And you'd better do the same. Tell them you're not what they think, and do it only the way you love it.

  26. You get used to the anxiety of being on stage. I used to get so nervous that I would shake, forget my parts, etc. Now there's definitely still a heightened "edge" before I play, but it's manageable and not entirely unpleasant. Having a beer or two helps, if that's something you do.

  27. I always explain it to my students that it’s like riding a rollercoaster. It’s scary and nerve-wracking but also fun and exciting.

  28. I had the same feeling, but it got more manageable the more I performed. Performing will help you conquer your anxiety off stage, too. It's more of an exercise than a cure, but you'll get more comfortable with it as you gain experience.

  29. It gets easier the more shows you do. I don’t think of myself as a performer, but an entertainer. My job at a show is to entertain the crowd. They don’t care if I even sing well. They care if I’m entertaining. So, the same with your music, you need to practice things for shows. Want to do any dancing or say some words to the audience between songs? Cool, practice doing those things in your usual practices. The more you prepare every aspect of your show, the more confident you’ll be, and the more entertaining for the crowd. Professional shows are will oiled machines, and every part of it is planned out and practiced by the artists.

  30. I was in your position. It just took practice to get comfortable on stage, and having good bandmates to be up there with me. Eventually the rush of a good show outweighed the fear of a bad one.

  31. Like someone else said, it’s not the music really that’s the problem, it’s dealing with all the people, from the promoters to venue staff to other musicians. That’s what’s killed it for me. I can play at home and just have an imaginary audience instead 😂 (I’m an introvert who’s played music for 30+ years)

  32. It's funny, because I crave performing but don't necessarily want to be recognized when I'm not working because it's an inconvenience. People make all kinds of assumptions and harbor all kinds of perceptions. I like my music and want to perform it for people, but I don't want the focus to be on me, more so on the party and then the music itself.

  33. You could always team up with a talented DJ to be a duo. You produce, they perform. I think it’s becoming more popular these days because it’s so hard to both tour & perform and also have the time to create. Lots of people are giving advice for how to get over the anxiety and be able to perform more, like you asked, but there’s also nothing wrong at all with just being a producer.

  34. Depending on the anxiety level you might want to talk to a therapist or even a psychiatrist. If you find yourself anxious all the time there are some meds that can help. The therapist will prob give you some cognitive behavioral therapy exercises to help you better deal with your emotions.

  35. I can relate to this 1000% I'm extremely introverted and my band just played our 3rd gig yesterday. We have a set that lasts about 30 minutes, give or take, and I'm front and center as the bass player and share vocal duties 50/50 with our guitarist. I always dread the time leading up to our set, but music being my passion I just push through the anxiety and like you said, I always feel wonderful afterwards...and not because it's over but because we (so far) have always gotten a warm reception and great feedback. It's one of those things that I think will get easier with time :)

  36. The fact that you feel great afterward is the sign that it will go away the more you do it. I’m the same way. Try to do it more often if you can.

  37. Knowing that I suffer from stage fright, I forced myself to perform by going to karaoke night. It was less risk but still got the anxiety going.

  38. So, I haven’t ever tried performing any of my own stuff, (as I still don’t actually produce much, and nothing with vocals, but that’s beside the point.) and I’m what I would absolutely describe normally as an introvert, myself… HOWEVER… come karaoke time, it’s like an entire other person somehow emerges from me and just takes over.

  39. One option is to collaborate with a frontman. Think the Prodigy for example! I also theorize that a person with a frontstage personality can also contribute to your work as these people tend to be tuned to the vibe better than we backstage introverts. My favorite examples of tech guy + vibe guy duos are Infected Mushroom and Shpongle.

  40. I'm an older guy who hasn't performed live in 25 years. I'm now looking to start a band and I even sing now. The idea of performing in front of anyone let alone an audience is filling me with extreme anxiety. I know I'll love it after the fact, but I seriously have no clue how I'm going to get up there and perform 😬

  41. l feel ya. l got into my local conservatory on the composition program, but this last semester has been all about live performance.

  42. Time and busking have made performing music easier for me, but I have tried to perform stand up comedy 3 times now and each time was it's own special hell where I couldn't wait to escape. I've done theatre and music and radio and they've all got nerves, but stand up comedy is the thing that stage fright now keeps me away from.

  43. Just get over it. Everyone deals with this. Yes its hard. Face it. Use other things to build discipline and confidence. Lift weights weekly. Take cold showers or cold plunges.

  44. what you want to do or be onstage is up to you. Not everyone is james brown and miles Davis just played for the band but had the confidence. If it’s a shyness thing you can focus on something towards the near back of the audience, maybe it’s a light or object that you think is close to what people faces would be near and perhaps a few other locations in room and just alternate looking at those it’ll help engage with audience or at least a good alternative if you feel anxious.

  45. Oh, yeah. The one thing I'll add to the excellent advice you've already gotten is to remember that, unless you're playing classical music, most of your audience isn't looking for perfection, they're looking for a good time, and part of the joy in the latter is that mistakes can simply add to the fun and sense of inspiration and connection with the audience as long as you don't let yourself be derailed by them.

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