Given the context, NTA. It’s inevitable to be seen as “breaking a code” whenever you date an ex of a friend, even if you’ve gotten the go ahead. That’s the risk one takes, so you have to be more confident and steadfast in your choice to date her and just tune out the others.
Personally, I’ve always thought “bro code” and things like that were ridiculous. Friendships are impermanent, and being beholden to them over some imaginary rule of thumb is just weird. Date who you want. So long as you go about it in a respectful manner and don’t flaunt it in his face, you’re fine. NTA.
NTA. The whole "bro code" is bullshit. Yeah, if you want to date someone who's connected to a friend, it's a good idea to talk to the friend and ensure there's no issues. Whether that's an ex, a sibling, or whatever, there's no rule that's set in stone.
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He doesnt sound like a bro to me so the code doesnt apply here.
please explain! i'm here for everyone's opinions
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Missing important infos here: how long were they together? How öfter do you see this friend?
They were together for a year. And I don't see him at all, he did something really dirty and now he's across the country.
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NTA. Bro code is bullshit no one can tell anyone they can't go out with a girl because whatever arbitrary made up rule.
NTA. Your mutual friends need to get their own lives. If your bro is ok with it then there is no stupid bro code to break.
NTA: "he gave me the go ahead"
NTA. The bro code is for frat boys and children.
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Given the context, NTA. It’s inevitable to be seen as “breaking a code” whenever you date an ex of a friend, even if you’ve gotten the go ahead. That’s the risk one takes, so you have to be more confident and steadfast in your choice to date her and just tune out the others.
NTA. Bro is okay with it, so even if bro code mattered (it doesn't) then you're in the clear.
NTA. Get new friends.
Personally, I’ve always thought “bro code” and things like that were ridiculous. Friendships are impermanent, and being beholden to them over some imaginary rule of thumb is just weird. Date who you want. So long as you go about it in a respectful manner and don’t flaunt it in his face, you’re fine. NTA.
NTA. The whole "bro code" is bullshit. Yeah, if you want to date someone who's connected to a friend, it's a good idea to talk to the friend and ensure there's no issues. Whether that's an ex, a sibling, or whatever, there's no rule that's set in stone.
NTA If he gave you the go ahead why does anybody else’s opinion matter
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Doesn’t really matter if you are the asshole of not to us, just are you willing to lose the friend or not?
honestly, yes. i've been debating dropping him for a while now. i j can't do his antics anymore
I'm going with NAH. I don't think you're wrong for dating her, but he's entitled to feel the way he feels as well.
Yes YATA . You never date friends exes . Just because you believe it to be OK don’t make it right . And yes you did violate bro code lol !
Slight YTA.
Pussy more valuable than friendships eh? Yta. I’d never get with someone my friend or anyone I’m close too has been with. That’s just grimy.
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