I am trying not to be stressed but it is hard. I have dreamed of having a family with both parents present. Neither of us grew up with that and I knew that it not how I wanted to raise my baby. It’s not fair to him. I can’t keep any food down right now. Thought I got over the nausea but guess not. I have lost 8 pounds in 2 days and my anxiety has come back full force. I have an appointment on Thursday that he still wants to attend.
Look. I was 100% convinced I was having a girl until a wee wee flashed across the screen (he's still a nudist) I cried when I found out I was having a boy. He was our last baby of four boys. I wanted my daughter. (Great way to freak out the ultrasound tech, btw. Cry.) But even while I was crying for the daughter that wasn't, I was bonding with our son that was. I understand being sad and disappointed. I don't understand being an a hole.
He said it was on an outing with his friends from work, (where he works every month they take workers from certain areas to dinner as an incentive) Then they start drinking commonly (this already comes out of the workers' pockets). So he drank too much and she was there, she was the one who started it. He wanted to end it but she started blackmailing him that he would tell me (she showed me several screenshots that he had in the cloud). She threatens him by saying that she has a video of that night but she never showed it.
The only thing she was threatening him with was telling you? That should have been a non-issue. HE should have told you. Instead, he Lied. To. Your. Face. Every. Day. For. Five. Months.
OP said there’s no support cuz they make the same income so judge ruled it a wash I guess. So why is OP able to provide fir the son but the Ex can’t support his daughter ?? What’s he doing with his $$$???
This part doesn't make sense to me. Child support is how they take the two incomes from the two parents and use it toward the child. The income amounts only impact the support in that, as one's income goes higher or lower, the child support could be raised or lowered accordingly. Case in point. I left my ex when my child was an infant. He has had child support this whole time. He tried to take me to court to get it lowered, not knowing (because he had gone NC with both my son and I 3 years prior) that I had a job making the most money I had ever made at the time. Guess what? Buddy's CS went UP. There was no circumstances, no matter how equal our incomes, that he would not be responsible for half that child's expenses. (Not that child support actually comes anywhere close to half the actually cost of raising a child)
I've seen some people say "I've never heard of graduating from therapy , forever. " or some portion thereof. I have, personally, had a therapist tell me I had "graduated." From her. All that meant was we had worked through the specific stuff that I had started seeing her for. Not that I was cured, forever and ever amen. Just that she and I were no longer going to be meeting as I was in a good, steady place at that time.
I wanted 12. Husband wanted 3. After we had the 3rd, he absolutely agreed we couldn’t possibly be done. After 4, I reluctantly agreed we were done. I wanted more. He didn’t. But I knew I really couldn’t handle more, I just wanted more. He was right, and I don’t regret it. I do like having 4!
We have 4. We are a blended family. I would have had more. He was not in favor. And that's ok. But if it was only up to me there would probably have been more
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Honestly that sucks. Try talking to him a few more times. If he dismisses you, threaten with a divorce. That will likely make him to respect your wishes.
Oh absolutely! My mom passed unexpectedly in 2019 and my step mom really stepped up not to try and replace my mom but to try and fill that void just a little bit. And it’s helped so much!
Faith in humanity restored a bit. Ty. Please Tell her some random internet weirdo (me) thinks she is a very kind and special person with a wonderful capacity to love. Knowing she is out there really does mean something.
She’s momma now. And I know my mom still hangs around. She turned my Xbox on in the middle of the night last night and scared the living hell out of me with the loud ass start up sound. She does the same thing to my dad to remind us that she’s still here and loves us. Makes me smile every time.
Tell Jabba the Sister in Law that you're not wearing a bikini because you're not wearing a bikini. It doesn't need to get any deeper than that. And then, once your boundary is set, you can say that you will not discuss it any more. Then, don't.
Okay, first of all you cannot "cure" autism. If her school is on board with MIL's attempts to "cure" that, then you should get some sort of lawsuit under way. Organizations that aim to "cure" autism tend to have a horrible track record regarding child abuse.
I think she was placating you the past 7 months because she knew that the chances of pregnancy were low given your fertility issues, and perhaps she wasn’t ready to deal with the trauma of ending the relationship yet. As others have said, she is likely aborting because she wants to end the relationship with you and doesn’t want to coparent and have you in her life. You’d be a real POS to expose her personal medical decision to her parents, coworkers or anyone else out of malicious intent just because you are butt hurt over it. You have ZERO proof that she was cheating. You’re just trying to turn the situation around on her so that you don’t have to share any of the blame for why the relationship is ending.
The phrasing of "platonic dates nights" is weird and feels intentional to make it seem like her friendship with her coworker is more inappropriate than it actually is.
I am trying not to be stressed but it is hard. I have dreamed of having a family with both parents present. Neither of us grew up with that and I knew that it not how I wanted to raise my baby. It’s not fair to him. I can’t keep any food down right now. Thought I got over the nausea but guess not. I have lost 8 pounds in 2 days and my anxiety has come back full force. I have an appointment on Thursday that he still wants to attend.
Bring your mom. He can go too but bring your mom to.your appointment. Let her be there with you snd take care of you.
Look. I was 100% convinced I was having a girl until a wee wee flashed across the screen (he's still a nudist) I cried when I found out I was having a boy. He was our last baby of four boys. I wanted my daughter. (Great way to freak out the ultrasound tech, btw. Cry.) But even while I was crying for the daughter that wasn't, I was bonding with our son that was. I understand being sad and disappointed. I don't understand being an a hole.
He said it was on an outing with his friends from work, (where he works every month they take workers from certain areas to dinner as an incentive) Then they start drinking commonly (this already comes out of the workers' pockets). So he drank too much and she was there, she was the one who started it. He wanted to end it but she started blackmailing him that he would tell me (she showed me several screenshots that he had in the cloud). She threatens him by saying that she has a video of that night but she never showed it.
The only thing she was threatening him with was telling you? That should have been a non-issue. HE should have told you. Instead, he Lied. To. Your. Face. Every. Day. For. Five. Months.
Lace
OP said there’s no support cuz they make the same income so judge ruled it a wash I guess. So why is OP able to provide fir the son but the Ex can’t support his daughter ?? What’s he doing with his $$$???
This part doesn't make sense to me. Child support is how they take the two incomes from the two parents and use it toward the child. The income amounts only impact the support in that, as one's income goes higher or lower, the child support could be raised or lowered accordingly. Case in point. I left my ex when my child was an infant. He has had child support this whole time. He tried to take me to court to get it lowered, not knowing (because he had gone NC with both my son and I 3 years prior) that I had a job making the most money I had ever made at the time. Guess what? Buddy's CS went UP. There was no circumstances, no matter how equal our incomes, that he would not be responsible for half that child's expenses. (Not that child support actually comes anywhere close to half the actually cost of raising a child)
I work at an Optometrist's office. They don't care.
I've seen some people say "I've never heard of graduating from therapy , forever. " or some portion thereof. I have, personally, had a therapist tell me I had "graduated." From her. All that meant was we had worked through the specific stuff that I had started seeing her for. Not that I was cured, forever and ever amen. Just that she and I were no longer going to be meeting as I was in a good, steady place at that time.
I just binged my way through Eureka for the 7th or 8th (or more? Who knows!) time. It’s my happy place show!
Mine too. I never want it to be over when it is
I wanted 12. Husband wanted 3. After we had the 3rd, he absolutely agreed we couldn’t possibly be done. After 4, I reluctantly agreed we were done. I wanted more. He didn’t. But I knew I really couldn’t handle more, I just wanted more. He was right, and I don’t regret it. I do like having 4!
We have 4. We are a blended family. I would have had more. He was not in favor. And that's ok. But if it was only up to me there would probably have been more
I bet he didn't learn a thing, but good on you! Well done !
She is living h3r life transactionally. I say if this is how she feels it may be best for both of you.
As a founding member back on Universal Studios’ Hercules message board back in the nineties (they didn’t have a Xena one) and runner of a Xena mailing list at the time that at one point had 3,500 worldwide subscribers, I’m happy to have helped contribute to his butthurt ego.
Not all heroes wear capes. Thank you for your time
I find a stand mixer works best, they never leave you lying flat.
This was poetry
Does your spouse already have issues with your parent(s)? That dynamic can make a huge difference
He does not. Thst is a good point.
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This is an interesting point
Lol I would do this and then cheat with her ex husband if I was her. Then even find her new boyfriends and try to get with them
I read that one yesterday
I have no words for how I wish I could physically usher you away from this person and protect you.
Honestly that sucks. Try talking to him a few more times. If he dismisses you, threaten with a divorce. That will likely make him to respect your wishes.
Only if you mean it. Don't threaten unless you intend to follow through.
I like the cut of your jib.
Haha. I say this too.
Patrick Stewart will remain quiet, but he wants you to know you're great the way you are and wants to make sure you're safe.
Don't forget Sir Ian!
Oh absolutely! My mom passed unexpectedly in 2019 and my step mom really stepped up not to try and replace my mom but to try and fill that void just a little bit. And it’s helped so much!
Faith in humanity restored a bit. Ty. Please Tell her some random internet weirdo (me) thinks she is a very kind and special person with a wonderful capacity to love. Knowing she is out there really does mean something.
She’s momma now. And I know my mom still hangs around. She turned my Xbox on in the middle of the night last night and scared the living hell out of me with the loud ass start up sound. She does the same thing to my dad to remind us that she’s still here and loves us. Makes me smile every time.
Oh thats funny. You are so very loved. I am so glad for you! May you receive continued blessings and love ❤️
Tell Jabba the Sister in Law that you're not wearing a bikini because you're not wearing a bikini. It doesn't need to get any deeper than that. And then, once your boundary is set, you can say that you will not discuss it any more. Then, don't.
Horse semen!! Hahaha
I read this I Peter griffins voice
Okay, first of all you cannot "cure" autism. If her school is on board with MIL's attempts to "cure" that, then you should get some sort of lawsuit under way. Organizations that aim to "cure" autism tend to have a horrible track record regarding child abuse.
Seconded
If you send your daughter to your MIL with her meds, MIL will not give them to her.
I think she was placating you the past 7 months because she knew that the chances of pregnancy were low given your fertility issues, and perhaps she wasn’t ready to deal with the trauma of ending the relationship yet. As others have said, she is likely aborting because she wants to end the relationship with you and doesn’t want to coparent and have you in her life. You’d be a real POS to expose her personal medical decision to her parents, coworkers or anyone else out of malicious intent just because you are butt hurt over it. You have ZERO proof that she was cheating. You’re just trying to turn the situation around on her so that you don’t have to share any of the blame for why the relationship is ending.
This. This. This. This.
The phrasing of "platonic dates nights" is weird and feels intentional to make it seem like her friendship with her coworker is more inappropriate than it actually is.
Yesss
I am just so very sorry. Your feelings are valid. I'm so so sorry
You owe that piece of...man...NOTHING. he treated you so poorly. You were absolutely 💯 in the right. Many blessings on your new life and happiness.