1. We have (secured) guns in our house. We don’t buy meat from the store. Teaching our child proper gun safety & the handling of firearms will be an essential part of our lifestyle.

  2. Hey - sorry to see you are getting down voted like this. I made my comment with a good hearted / natured chuckle at the notion that anyone can really know / plan much of any absolute with their kids beyond the choices basically in front of them.

  3. on the one hand yeah, sure. on the other hand, it is a little weird to fantasize about all the shit you won’t let your kid do 10 years from now

  4. My sister would have also had absolutely no to contact sports - her kiddo loved flag football and wanted to play the contact version this past summer. She decided it was safer to let him try it now (when he is not even in middle school) because the risk of long term injury is much lower. Turns out he hated the contact version. Problem solved itself.

  5. Mmm Greek yogurt is actually a great idea. I usually just give him the kind we eat but I'll definitely get him some.

  6. Jumping on this one to mention that the large whole milk plain yogurts are fairly affordable and you can add peanut butter, jams, honey or any number of high calorie things in to make it tasty too. It’s a great option for getting in dairy and calories.

  7. Yeah I guess I’ll have to do it. Is there a concern about me being fired before I take leave? I’m due May 3rd

  8. Please don’t listen to most of the folks responding here. They are right in the sense of the law and what should happen. But wrong in the reality of what could / likely will happen.

  9. It’s not good. It’s not good for infants, toddlers, kids, OR adults. I do 0 screentime with my kids, because it’s absolutely not the only way to get things done! People have been parenting for millennia without screens- distracting, disciplining, engaging, teaching, and calming down with many many different strategies that don’t negatively effect their growing brains.

  10. I did almost no screen time with my child before age 2 (one cross country flight and maybe 2-3 other times). However, I would never, ever tell someone else using screens for 15-30 minutes max. per day that “people have been parenting without screens for a millennia”

  11. And I absolutely support and advocate for very limited screen usage in extenuating circumstances! Will it get your kid to hold still for a vaccine when they otherwise wouldn’t? DO IT. Safety trumps any impact of 5min of Cocomelon. 13 hour flight? Confining anyone to a overly bright white humming box with no escape, with 140 other people for that long is insane, go ahead and blitz your kids brains with constant iPad and God Speed. But where it’s feasible and reasonable for your child to learn to cope with being bored, making their own fun, waiting their turn, independent play etc you should instead facilitate that. Often to your own psychological detriment and inefficiency of task.

  12. Thanks for replying. You are right that so often when people post about screen usage they are using the TV or the iPad for hours every week. I recall a post a while ago of someone experiencing a lot of tantrums and not sleeping ... when folks starting asking about schedule / routine was 2+ hours of TV and almost no outdoor time.

  13. First, totally normal! Any time I’m looking at a parent with a kid melting down I’m checking that 1. Nothing bad happened (injured, lost, etc) and 2. If it’s someone I know or is looking for help (ex. The diaper bag had spilled everywhere and I can offer to pick up some things while they focus on kiddo)

  14. First, seconding all the folks saying day to day activities are events for kids - a grocery store trip or whatever other errands are always great. Hell, I’ve wandered around Target with my child touching all the toys as well as taking the escalator as an activity in the winter.

  15. I just started playing and understand most of the basics. I’d love to join - happy to be flexible on character. I’m familiar with roll20 but open to using another site. 

  16. You are doing a good job being an honest parent. And your post isn’t a rambling mess at all (wander around Reddit a little … actually don’t)

  17. First, I don’t think you’ll regret it. I stepped back in my career (supervising a team of 12 to just reviewing plans) and couldn’t be happier. I feel so much less stress

  18. Agree. We had a (boy) kindergartener that came in to Meet the Teacher in a full out dress, and the other kids in the class just stared, and were scared to talk to him. Since the first day of school, he's worn "boy clothes" to school. His ears are pierced and he has dangly earrings in. They're not super flashy, so they're enough for him, but the kids don't even notice. He has tons of friends, and wearing typical "boy clothes" has not hurt him in any way.

  19. Shame on everyone in that room on meet the teacher night who didn’t make the boy in the dress feel welcome. Kids learn that behavior from their parents.

  20. Shame on you for putting your opinions on others, and blaming adults for confused little kids when put into a new uncomfortable and touchy situation. Maybe a boy wearing a dress makes other young kids feel uncomfortable, did you consider THEIR feelings? But who cares about how they feel, it's only about how that one person feels.

  21. First, a little boy wearing a dress isn’t any different than a little girl wear pants. Or at least it shouldn’t be.

  22. Working mom checking in - No shame or judgement or for stay at home parents. A ton of respect.

  23. I flinched posting this because I thought people would tell me how I have no chill, and how I’m making a big deal out of this when I should be just happy on vacation. I thought if people didn’t think I was an asshole they’d say something like “just drop the planning and get a drink!”, I thought that maybe posting this would help me understand too why two smart people are treating me like I’m crazy. I have my friends’ advice but of course they are on my side.

  24. I’ve read your post and several comments. Please find a therapist for just you. Don’t go to couples therapy without also seeing your own, separate therapist.

  25. I definitely notice two common threads among working parents. It’s both “why is everything scheduled during the work week, we can’t make that work” and also “we have no time and all our weekends are so full of plans when do we relax or get anything done”. Which don’t seem like they can coexist but somehow do.

  26. I hear you - I felt the same way with my first when he was first born, especially since it was in the middle of COVID.

  27. Try looking at local building departments - they may offer virtual inspections that you can perform or other somewhat related office tasks.

  28. Stop cutting the lawn, gardening or doing anything other than what absolutely had to get done - food for family (including pets) and clean clothes.

  29. There was a scientist who studied psychopaths genetics and found a gene common among most of them. When attempting to use himself as a control, he found he had the gene too. When he remarked about it among his friends and family, they said "Yeah that sounds about right". He went on to theorize that it was a combination of of genetics and trauma that created serial killers.

  30. Hi everyone. Y’all don’t know how much all of your comments mean to me. I was reading them while waiting at PP to get one last test done to be positive and indeed it was. Although I don’t agree with some comments, most of you guys have been very helpful and have positively impacted me. Thank you for your kindness. I live in Texas so I need to figure this out and plan an out of state trip to get this done.

  31. You can have the abortion pills mailed to a safe address. This non-profit is very helpful:

  32. I would say Seattle drivers are worse than DC drivers. DC drivers can be assholes, but they generally know HOW to drive. Same can’t be said for Seattle drivers.

  33. I lived in DC for a decade - no one knows how to drive there. Everyone is an asshole. No one respects cyclist or pedestrians. Seattle drivers are timid and slow, but I don’t worry they are going to kill someone trying to commute in something other than a car.

  34. I’m not sure if you are interested but the building code / inspection side of the industry is desperate for people. You may want to look at local government or companies like SafeBuilt for inspector or plan reviewer (depending on your background) opportunities. Good luck!

  35. Maybe you can answer my question on this then? How can I get me a baby on the cheap. My wife and I have been trying for a few years now in our 30's and with no luck and not a ton of liquid cash, I was wondering what the best approach would be?

  36. Adopt an older kid or foster to adopt. Be flexible on medical needs and race (fucked yup but true).

  37. Should be giving these kids out for the price of a background check instead of gatekeeping them behind a for-profit paywall. Piece of shit country wants to capitalize everything, even humanity.

  38. Terminating parental rights and going through the court system is expensive. As well as home assessment visits and follow up visits.

  39. My kiddo will be 2 in September. Last month he happened to see of kids costumes when we were at a store for something else. He a really wanted the faerie one … we will see if come October he actually wears it and walks around.

  40. It’s okay. You did everything right and kiddo was okay. Kids are going to choke. It’s terrifying but it’s not unusual.

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