GOP stands for "grand old party", otherwise known as "the republican party".. they are a regressive and isolationist party that is active in the US. Their influence has led to numerous atrocities, including one in my own hometown, on the other side of the planet..
He did call out her behavior during the phone call and all she did was call him too sensitive, say I was in the wrong because everything she does bothers me and she can’t do anything right. He told her everything she cried about doesn’t matter and the point of the conversation was to let her know to watch what she says from now on and to stop complaining about the shower. She said “that’s just who I am but I’ll try”. We will see! 🤦🏻♀️ I don’t have much hope at all. My friend offered to throw the shower instead. If it came to it, we would do it ourselves or just not have one.
Well, I think daily commute is a separate discussion.. It's highly individual. I have a bike-train-tram-bike commute of something like 1:45 each way and I still prefer it to "an hour" behind the wheel because traffic makes it about 1:30 and I have to be careful and awake and cannot work.. but I wouldn't need to work 90 km away, I technically could work somewhere else and most people don't have that kind of commute.
When I just arrived here I didn't have an American drivers license yet, just my international drivers license and passport. The store clerk said they didn't accept neither, only "real driver licenses". I had to go Karen mode and ask for the manager, who luckily had a bit more common sense. It's like some Americans don't seem to get the point of carding someone, it's to check the age. Not the validity of a document. Thinking for yourself is hard in the land of the free.
I just wonder if he is more mad that is wife is not going to be a standby babysitter this time, so he can't overly give his mom full attention even if he wanted too.... also, I hope OP does absolutely nothing on fathers day.
Thanks for your comment. It’s really helpful. I like the idea of asking him to make that list. I’m from the US and my husband is from Portugal. We (as long as we are married) will not be moving back to Portugal where his family are. We both have a decent savings from working and him his inheritance which is being used to pay for his grandmothers/mothers expenses. If either of us were to lose our jobs for some wouldn’t be dire as we do have emergency funds/savings/ and of course what he still has of his inheritance. But over time with continuing to provide for his grandmother/mother that situation can and will likely change. I’ve urged and am now to the point I’m begging him to see a therapist and put the effort into healing himself and this toxic dynamic he has with the mother. I’m tired and feeling like I’m fighting an impossible battle and the only one willing to put in the work needed to fix this (as I’m not seeing it from him). He tells me he loves me and wants our marriage to last a lifetime, but avoids doing the work needed to help himself and ultimately the success of our relationship.
I know what it’s like to be old now 😵💫😵💫 I got the youngins teaching me stuff that seems obvious in hindsight. The military adds years to ya. I’ll be 24 in July 🤣😭
It’s wild. I’ve been accused of gatekeeping for having the audacity to study and practice.
Study and practice is gatekeeping now?
You 'have to let them in' ?
GOP stands for "grand old party", otherwise known as "the republican party".. they are a regressive and isolationist party that is active in the US. Their influence has led to numerous atrocities, including one in my own hometown, on the other side of the planet..
The scary part is that we see other countries trying to imitate the GOP.
Ahh, they key to a happy relationship: ultimatums
after 5 years - yes - because this isn't a happy relation - OP is a bangmaid .. not a partner.
He did call out her behavior during the phone call and all she did was call him too sensitive, say I was in the wrong because everything she does bothers me and she can’t do anything right. He told her everything she cried about doesn’t matter and the point of the conversation was to let her know to watch what she says from now on and to stop complaining about the shower. She said “that’s just who I am but I’ll try”. We will see! 🤦🏻♀️ I don’t have much hope at all. My friend offered to throw the shower instead. If it came to it, we would do it ourselves or just not have one.
Well, this is how I am/ we are - so 'deal with it' and stop the whining.
Well, I think daily commute is a separate discussion.. It's highly individual. I have a bike-train-tram-bike commute of something like 1:45 each way and I still prefer it to "an hour" behind the wheel because traffic makes it about 1:30 and I have to be careful and awake and cannot work.. but I wouldn't need to work 90 km away, I technically could work somewhere else and most people don't have that kind of commute.
If i had a Bully - trains wouldn`t stand a chance.. love those :)
Fingers crossed for both moving closer to work and getting a Bully at some point. ;)
And you too :)
When I just arrived here I didn't have an American drivers license yet, just my international drivers license and passport. The store clerk said they didn't accept neither, only "real driver licenses". I had to go Karen mode and ask for the manager, who luckily had a bit more common sense. It's like some Americans don't seem to get the point of carding someone, it's to check the age. Not the validity of a document. Thinking for yourself is hard in the land of the free.
So, they have freedom FROM thinking.. ideal, isn`t it?
Actual headline from a post in
ooh.. the hostile architecture link - how depressing.
Always use.. this website that isn`t even 2 months old.. ding ding.. we have a scammer.
ooh.. like dial up? :D
how do you handle the whole "HR is not your friend" culture on this sub? I'd imagine it'd get a bit draining
Technically - no one at work is your friend.
ah I meant in this sub, the general disdain for HR and how that redditor felt about it. could've been a bit clearer for sure.
I do have to admit - the HR is not your friend - i KNOW first hand.
Wouldn`t it be fun if the Citroen legal specialists ask to speak to Tesla`s manager on account of the Karin ??
a match made in...
Whenever I see the blue check mark I assume the poster is an asshat.
I wonder - how many are legit good people with a blue mark, and how many are paying to be AH`s all day?
Yes.
He allowed her to dictate his life for this long - and you`re overreacting?
Ooh f***
rest in peace Betty.
I just wonder if he is more mad that is wife is not going to be a standby babysitter this time, so he can't overly give his mom full attention even if he wanted too.... also, I hope OP does absolutely nothing on fathers day.
To celebrate Fathers day one has to be a Father.. not just a sperm donor..
I'm so sorry you're going through this, it sounds like an incredibly difficult and painful situation. A few thoughts:
That is a clear way to describe it - creepy mc creeper here thinks he owns OPs sexuality.
Geez.. Sorry you were treated this way, and that he seems to blame you here.
to add:
There is a lot to unpack here.
Thanks for your comment. It’s really helpful. I like the idea of asking him to make that list. I’m from the US and my husband is from Portugal. We (as long as we are married) will not be moving back to Portugal where his family are. We both have a decent savings from working and him his inheritance which is being used to pay for his grandmothers/mothers expenses. If either of us were to lose our jobs for some wouldn’t be dire as we do have emergency funds/savings/ and of course what he still has of his inheritance. But over time with continuing to provide for his grandmother/mother that situation can and will likely change. I’ve urged and am now to the point I’m begging him to see a therapist and put the effort into healing himself and this toxic dynamic he has with the mother. I’m tired and feeling like I’m fighting an impossible battle and the only one willing to put in the work needed to fix this (as I’m not seeing it from him). He tells me he loves me and wants our marriage to last a lifetime, but avoids doing the work needed to help himself and ultimately the success of our relationship.
As they say in Rotterdam "Geen woorden maar daden" - in English the equivalent is "Actions speak louder than words"
To quote Benny: Spaceship!!!!
and another one where Europe lives rent free in their head..
The answer to most of these questions is either "because management" or "because security" though.
I know what it’s like to be old now 😵💫😵💫 I got the youngins teaching me stuff that seems obvious in hindsight. The military adds years to ya. I’ll be 24 in July 🤣😭
spring chicken you are.