But what if I feel like I'm gonna have doubts no matter what? With how I am, I could be dating a literal angel and still having doubts about popping the question because "she can't be that perfect". I'm not even gonna talk about real situations, that will always have their positives and negatives
There’s a certain sort of person who can’t admit when their feelings have changed. They have to have “always” felt the way they feel now to protect their own belief in everlasting love.
As long as you’re thinking that you’re searching for the perfect wife, you probably shouldn’t be getting married yet. Get married when you want to spend your life with someone because being together makes both of your lives better and you never want to lose that. Not because you found your “best” option.
I agree with the comments suggesting that Madeleine Douglas sounds like a surname mn and therefore works - up to a point. It works for a stranger reading the name. Your daughter will be aware that she is named after her grandfather and that it’s (gasp) a boy’s name. There is a pretty good chance she will hate it at some age. Maybe she’ll skip that phase and hopefully she’ll grow out of it, but it seems like the kindness to your FIL here is at your daughter’s expense.
I remember years ago thinking my 4 year old was a genius because he could read an entire Dr Seuss book, flipping the pages correctly and everything when in actuality he had just memorized it from us reading it over and over at bedtime 🤦♀️. Humbling lol
I also live in the SE and my mn is Laura. I pronounce it LAW-ruh. I’ve heard Lara pronounced either the same or with a flat A sound. I think the Lo sound is more of a regional accent that I wouldn’t worry about unless it’s common where you live.
My best guess is that directly showing the problem can be triggering to certain people who still want to know about the exploitation (i.e. women who have had their privates exposed online, assaulted, etc.)
I prefer it to a lot of really contemporary sounding names and it is a surprisingly rude reaction. But I also kind of get it. I have John fatigue. Half of my uncles are named John and they all married in. Sometimes a name needs to cool off a little and then people love it again. My guess is your son will probably be an off-cycle John, which will have its perks. A classic name and uncommon for his age.
IDK, a lot of Gen Z kids (including my kid) have Gen X parents. They know our music better than a lot of millennials do. You may be right about a coastal divide, though. It was a lot bigger in the 90s when radio was less uniform across markets.
I was working in radio in the 90s in the US. Blur was never huge in America. I was a big UK music fan so i was aware in the pre-internet era of Blue, the feud with Oasis and how big Parklife was... but most people didn't.
I definitely didn’t say it was massive or huge. Just pretty big at my East Coast college crowd and something I would hear on alternative radio stations in that market (albeit less than Oasis). It just seems silly to me when people suggest Americans missed out on Brit Pop because I remember it being like one of 5 or 6 genres I’d hear on campus in the mid-90s. Not the most common, but in the mix for sure. My husband went to school 4 states away and had a similar experience, so I don’t think it was my school was a weird outlier. But maybe a liberal arts school thing?
I can’t do gums/carrageenan without intestinal pain and gas. It has become super hard to find any cottage cheese, yogurt or ice cream that isn’t using it as a filler these days. I’ve found one brand of cottage cheese and those Häagen-Dazs five ingredient ice creams.
And we have a lot of first hand accounts of how abusive and traumatizing troubled teen centers were. It made sense as a horrible thing to do in the context of when the show aired.
Not everyone’s love is worth having. Some people’s need to self-sabatoge is stronger than their love for their partner or child. Maybe this guy will be a better partner to someone else in the future, but that might just be evidence of personal growth, not loving more but loving better.
My strongest memory of that film is that the camera seemed to leer at her body the whole film and wondering if she had been aware of that while they were shooting. It felt unsettling and exploitative in a way that took me out of the film to the point I barely remember the plot. So it is a bit weird to me that her future husband loved it. When we walked out of the theater, my husband turned to me and said “starring Elizabeth Olsen’s boobs” before I could even say anything.
A bank. A mile. A brook. These are all nouns in common usage. Collins sounds plural to me because the name Colin is more common. None of the names you listed work that way. There isn’t a Thoma or a Charle. There are names Nicola and Luca, but the -as at the end of Nicholas and Lucas has a distinct pronunciations difference from how I would say Luca or Nicola in the plural. Personally, I like a lot of uncommon names. I gave my kid a really uncommon name. This post is on name icks and sounding plural is mine. It’s not that deep. Sorry if you named your kid Collins or something. As long as you like it, my ick shouldn’t matter.
I think it’s odd how people who read Colleen Hoover books are always like “ugh, no. Colleen Hoover,” when you mention a name they associate with one of her books. Who is hate-reading all these books?
So, I’m guessing you see a lot of people checking them out. Any idea why it seem like a solid portion of the people who do read them hate them, and yet still read more of her books? Are the people who love them just quieter?
I REALLLLYYYYYYY disliked fantasia’s interpretation of Ceily. The whole film felt very much like it had been changed based on insta and Reddit comments (for the worse). It deviated even more from the book in a very strange way. Ceily would NEVER befriend Mister. I will die on that hill
I don’t think they made good TV as a couple, but they make sense as the people that could run into each other after 10 years and end up happily married within 6 months.
I wouldn’t worry that much about flow. The middle name is important to you, you will rarely say both together after the first few months and they all look nice together on paper.
But what if I feel like I'm gonna have doubts no matter what? With how I am, I could be dating a literal angel and still having doubts about popping the question because "she can't be that perfect". I'm not even gonna talk about real situations, that will always have their positives and negatives
Then don't do it.
There’s a certain sort of person who can’t admit when their feelings have changed. They have to have “always” felt the way they feel now to protect their own belief in everlasting love.
As long as you’re thinking that you’re searching for the perfect wife, you probably shouldn’t be getting married yet. Get married when you want to spend your life with someone because being together makes both of your lives better and you never want to lose that. Not because you found your “best” option.
I agree with the comments suggesting that Madeleine Douglas sounds like a surname mn and therefore works - up to a point. It works for a stranger reading the name. Your daughter will be aware that she is named after her grandfather and that it’s (gasp) a boy’s name. There is a pretty good chance she will hate it at some age. Maybe she’ll skip that phase and hopefully she’ll grow out of it, but it seems like the kindness to your FIL here is at your daughter’s expense.
I remember years ago thinking my 4 year old was a genius because he could read an entire Dr Seuss book, flipping the pages correctly and everything when in actuality he had just memorized it from us reading it over and over at bedtime 🤦♀️. Humbling lol
I remember my little brother doing that with his favorite book.
It’s the twenties, so I’d have four:
I also live in the SE and my mn is Laura. I pronounce it LAW-ruh. I’ve heard Lara pronounced either the same or with a flat A sound. I think the Lo sound is more of a regional accent that I wouldn’t worry about unless it’s common where you live.
My first thought was Charlotte and Louis, both from the Princess and the Frog, but then I realized Will and Kate beat me to it. So, Dinah and Louis.
It’s also kinda crazy the article went with a picture that shows exactly none of the problem.
Not the first article about this that shows a photo with other outfits. Not sure what’s behind that choice.
My best guess is that directly showing the problem can be triggering to certain people who still want to know about the exploitation (i.e. women who have had their privates exposed online, assaulted, etc.)
With the real outfit being shown on a mannequin, I think the ability for readers to judge for themselves is important
One of my friends has a boring name. Her dad said "Well, we wanted you to be ordinary!"
I laughed so hard at this
I prefer it to a lot of really contemporary sounding names and it is a surprisingly rude reaction. But I also kind of get it. I have John fatigue. Half of my uncles are named John and they all married in. Sometimes a name needs to cool off a little and then people love it again. My guess is your son will probably be an off-cycle John, which will have its perks. A classic name and uncommon for his age.
An otter. They always seem to be having a great time.
IDK, a lot of Gen Z kids (including my kid) have Gen X parents. They know our music better than a lot of millennials do. You may be right about a coastal divide, though. It was a lot bigger in the 90s when radio was less uniform across markets.
I was working in radio in the 90s in the US. Blur was never huge in America. I was a big UK music fan so i was aware in the pre-internet era of Blue, the feud with Oasis and how big Parklife was... but most people didn't.
I definitely didn’t say it was massive or huge. Just pretty big at my East Coast college crowd and something I would hear on alternative radio stations in that market (albeit less than Oasis). It just seems silly to me when people suggest Americans missed out on Brit Pop because I remember it being like one of 5 or 6 genres I’d hear on campus in the mid-90s. Not the most common, but in the mix for sure. My husband went to school 4 states away and had a similar experience, so I don’t think it was my school was a weird outlier. But maybe a liberal arts school thing?
Of course, he touched all of us
I think about this article way too often:
I'd be curious to see the list of TJ's ingredients.
I can’t do gums/carrageenan without intestinal pain and gas. It has become super hard to find any cottage cheese, yogurt or ice cream that isn’t using it as a filler these days. I’ve found one brand of cottage cheese and those Häagen-Dazs five ingredient ice creams.
Ellis and Roman are my top two by far.
That was all the rage at the time- if a parent had the cash, and even a slightly unruly teen, they’d be shipped away to be “fixed”.
And we have a lot of first hand accounts of how abusive and traumatizing troubled teen centers were. It made sense as a horrible thing to do in the context of when the show aired.
Cheating and being open about it is NOT love.
Not everyone’s love is worth having. Some people’s need to self-sabatoge is stronger than their love for their partner or child. Maybe this guy will be a better partner to someone else in the future, but that might just be evidence of personal growth, not loving more but loving better.
Martha Marcy May Marlene is a really interesting movie. It was Olsen’s film debut.
My strongest memory of that film is that the camera seemed to leer at her body the whole film and wondering if she had been aware of that while they were shooting. It felt unsettling and exploitative in a way that took me out of the film to the point I barely remember the plot. So it is a bit weird to me that her future husband loved it. When we walked out of the theater, my husband turned to me and said “starring Elizabeth Olsen’s boobs” before I could even say anything.
What about James? This thread is so annoying with the surname hate but only for surnames outside the top 10
I don’t read every name ending in “s” as plural. What is one Jame?
You could make that argument about all of the names you referenced above.
A bank. A mile. A brook. These are all nouns in common usage. Collins sounds plural to me because the name Colin is more common. None of the names you listed work that way. There isn’t a Thoma or a Charle. There are names Nicola and Luca, but the -as at the end of Nicholas and Lucas has a distinct pronunciations difference from how I would say Luca or Nicola in the plural. Personally, I like a lot of uncommon names. I gave my kid a really uncommon name. This post is on name icks and sounding plural is mine. It’s not that deep. Sorry if you named your kid Collins or something. As long as you like it, my ick shouldn’t matter.
Kirk was the main reason I remember this show. Great character. The actor, Jere Burns, was also excellent in "Justified."
He was great in a small part in Breaking Bad, too, but I always see Kirk.
I think it’s mostly popular now due to Colleen Hoover, which I can live without.
I think it’s odd how people who read Colleen Hoover books are always like “ugh, no. Colleen Hoover,” when you mention a name they associate with one of her books. Who is hate-reading all these books?
I’m a librarian.
So, I’m guessing you see a lot of people checking them out. Any idea why it seem like a solid portion of the people who do read them hate them, and yet still read more of her books? Are the people who love them just quieter?
I REALLLLYYYYYYY disliked fantasia’s interpretation of Ceily. The whole film felt very much like it had been changed based on insta and Reddit comments (for the worse). It deviated even more from the book in a very strange way. Ceily would NEVER befriend Mister. I will die on that hill
It felt like it was changed to make it more palatable as a film to go see with your family on Christmas. With predictably mediocre results.
i like the italian pronunciation bay-uh-treece, otherwise not a fan
I’ve always heard the Italian as Bey-ah-tree-chay, since ce makes a Che sound. I do prefer it in Italian.
I don’t think they made good TV as a couple, but they make sense as the people that could run into each other after 10 years and end up happily married within 6 months.
It seems like I’m suddenly seeing her everywhere. Is she massively popular, or does she just have an amazing publicist?
People will likely assume that either the middle or last name started with J. But, honestly, so what?
Thanks for the feedback! Lina is the name of a favorite aunt who recently passed away, so the middle name is set.
I wouldn’t worry that much about flow. The middle name is important to you, you will rarely say both together after the first few months and they all look nice together on paper.